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writes: I'm in love with this really great guy. I mean, he's a lot taller than me, he's smarter than me (I don't know many guys who are), he's pretty good looking, is generally a nice guy except for when he gives people a hard time, and can basicly turn me into a house-trained puppy just by walking in the room. Also he's just one year older than me. However, he's actually my second cousin. I've had feelings for him for about 2 years now, but didn't fully realize it until this last year. I mean, we have a lot in common, and I just love to be close to him. I'll see him again in about 4-5 months, I hope, and I wanna know if I should tell him or not. I posted something like this not to long ago, but then I realized people only get the great advice a few years after the post. So I'm doing this again, but with an account. Please Please help me! Writting about it won't help and I can't tell my family. But I don't know if I should tell him...Should I?-Tay
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reader, MOTHER WAR x  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 yes you should tell him,
i got a crush on my cousin to for about a year and a half, he's 21 and im 14 but after i told him, great things happened, i thought he'd get mad at me, but instead i got a kiss, not just any kiss, we made out 4 days after i told him, and we still do anything, but we keep it a secret, or we're screwed lol
but yea tell him :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): Hi.I am in the same situation, so I know exactly how you feel.I want to tell my first cousin once removed how I feel too.
From the souns of things, it doesnt sound like you see yours very often.May i ask how often you see him ?.I dont see mine very often, he used to live very close to me, but lives further away now, so it's difficult.I would just have to tell mine whenever i see him i suppose.
I also wanted to ask if you have had any other boyfriends while you have liked him aswell, or have you stayed single becasue he is the only one you want to be with ?. I have dated other guys, only short term, but to be honest, he is the one i really want to be with.I have liked mine for afew years too.
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reader, gost8 +, writes (2 March 2008):
I know this is a year after the question, but I just came across this site.
First, he is not your 2nd cousin. Most think a 2nd cousin is one of your own cousin's child. The cosin you have a crush on is your 1st cousin once removed.
A 2nd cousin is a parent's cousin.
Second, because of your age, I am most confident this is just a crush and not true love. You have a long time to go dear try not to rush your life so fast...good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): Yes. I think you should. I have a crush on my second cousin too. He's 16 and I really like him. Like you, I don't get to see him often. Maybe every 6 months. He hugs me alot and I tickle him. We have fun every time we see each other. I don't know how my family will react to this but we'll see. Hope this helps :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): I would tell him and see what he thinks. I married my second cousin and we have 2 wonderful daughters together. I also live with my parent to take care of them in thier old age. Everyone approved with us because love has brought us together and nothing could break us apart. If you love someone do what it takes to be with that person. We had many hard times and scary times for 7 years and then married for 15 years after that, I would not ever believe that we be together this long but he is my first and last lover. If we couldn't together don't know how my life would be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): Yes, I would definitely tell him. Otherwise he will never know how you feel about him. You shouldn't keep your feelings bottled up inside. Try to get a few minutes with him alone, or if you can't, ask him to come talk to you alone when he gets a few minutes. Tell him you would like to hang out with him a lot more than you, that you really like hanging out with him, and ask him if you and him could go out and do fun things together, just you and him together, like the movies, the mall, etc.
Also, try hugging him when you see him. When you are around him, give him little love taps, like touchim him on the arm or shoulder or around his waist like you would do to other guys you like, so that he can tell that you really like him. Compliment him on his appearance. Be really nice and even flirty with him, and he will probably respond well to you. Maybe try playing little games, like tickling or playful wrestling, so you can get physically really close to him. If you get your bodies really close to each other and you can press your body against his, it will increase the chances that he will like being around you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the confidance, and advice! But a new problem has come up...I usually spend a few weeks with my Grandma and he is stating with his Grandpa (my uncle). But his dad has moved down here so he'll be staying with him and his wife now. I won't se him as much even if I do go. Which is the other problem, my aunt has Cancer and it's really bad this time, but she also takes care of my Grandparents too (Grandaddy's deaf and my Grandma is sick and almost deaf). So, my mom doesn't want us to go because of that. That means I'll only have 2 days to tell him at our family reunion. However he's always with our other cousin (my Grandmas great-nephew) and they always play video games in which I have no interest at all. And they sit there, for hours on no end! Or they play Guitar Hero, which I like but can't play/watch because it gives me a migrane! So, if that happens I'll never be able to tell him! Because we'll never be alone! Hopfully I'll be able to go though...My Grandparents enjoy seeing me and my sister. Any thoughts on what I should do if what I just said happens? THanks again!-Tay
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): I feel you should too. Just be sure of your feelings and think of how you would tell him,where you would, when you would, etc. Good Luck!!
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reader, EssentiallyMe +, writes (22 February 2008):
 I think yes, because you need to determine how he feels before you do anything else.
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