A
male
age
36-40,
*asanova2love
writes:I am in a problem. I really madly deeply truly seriously fall in love with my boss. She knows that thing. She is beautiful, cute.Whenever she passes me there I can feel the wind of Love.The problem is She is 43, unmarried and I am 25 unmarried.18 years difference is a problem?Even I did't tell her about my love directly. But I assume, she knows I am loving her. I think she loves me too. But I am affraiding the response from her. Somebody help me, when i can say that, I love youand how should I say it?
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (24 July 2012):
Its a power thing - many a man has been where you are.
IMO, you do not "love" her, you are infatuated with her because of her position and its a power thing.
She is your boss, and thats as far as this goes. If you want to have your little fantasy in your head, fine, but it must end there.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 July 2012):
 The problem is not the age.
the problem is that she's YOUR BOSS and that's not a good thing.
Often a boss can NOT date a subordinate...
As for knowing that she loves you too... you have a crush...
if you would like to see if it's more than a crush you would probably need to find a new job first.
She may be very opposed to dating a man so much younger than she is...(i would not but many women are)
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (24 July 2012):
 No, you should not tell her you love her. See if there are any rules on dating co-workers where you work. That is the first thing. Next, ask her out for coffee/tea, lunch, or dinner. You treat her like you would treat any first "date". You may even need to be professional about it until you figure out if she really likes you. Be a gentleman.
With all of that being said, you need to be very careful about these relationships at work. I would not be doing my job here if I did not forewarn you of the things that can go wrong when dating a co-worker/boss. Make sure you are ALWAYS professional at your job. No romance and outward displays of affection. If you do start seeing people regularly, your other co-workers will start talking about you. My advice is be upfront about it, so that none of the stories get out of control. Also, keep in mind what kind of dynamics will be set up at work if you do date and at any time are not getting along. Having a female boss who is ticked at you for something in your relationship could set up a bad work environment. So, there are a lot of things to think about...even more than this, but these are just a few things.
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