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writes: I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 yrs now and I am very happy except for one thing, I can't have an orgasm.I was so happy with him that I just dealt with it. I told myself it's okay, you can handle this, he can please you in other ways... but after 2 yrs the sex isn't fun anymore.See he doesn't know where my spot is or how to give me an orgasm because I am his first, and frankly I've never been with a woman so I don't know what to tell him. Sex isn't everything in relationship but it does count. Please help me I don't want to lose my relationship because of this. I just need some tips to give him to help me achieve an orgasm during sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2005): Teach him and guide him. That will surely work
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (23 June 2005):
 Initially, you need to find out what gives you pleasure by exploring your own body and stimulating yourself. When you have discovered this, then you can go on to inform him of what really turns you on. Communication here really is the key to success.
Try different positions and either you or him could stimulate you at the same time.
Try using sex toys too, experiment with a vibrator. He can use it on you but practise on your own at first to discover what you really like.
You need to gain more familiarity with your own body to be able to pass on the information to him. Experiment and have fun doing it! Read books together, develop your fantasies, share every sexual thought. Before you know it, you will behaving much more fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2005): By far the easiest solution to this problem is for you to do a bit of exploration yourself, and then when you find what feels best for you, give him tips. If you can get over the initial embarrassment, it'll be well worth it in the long run.
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