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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:To readers,I've been with my current bf for 4 years now on and off and during one of the times that we broke up, i was seeing a guy who i really connected with and we had a 'thing' for a few months.During that time i was still not over my ex and i was confused who to go with, obviously it was a good idea to see someone straight after we broke up but i couldn't help it. The guy made me feel special and loved and that was something i didn't feel for a long time in my long relationship with my ex. Anyways, i got back together with my ex and things ended really bad with the other guy. I told him from the beginning that i didnt want anything serious and that i wasn't ready for anything more than friends (even if we kissed a few times). it's been nearly 2 years since this ordeal and I still think about the other guy, my ex who is now my bf again treats me really well and has changed his ways completely and hes everything i ever wanted him to be but now it feels like it's not enough and i don't know if it ever will be but then other times, all i want is him. He talks about marraige and kids and not leaving me ever again but for some reason now it scares me because i feel like im missing out on MAYBE having a better life with soemone else or having kids and being trapped in a relationship that could go upside down again.My boyfriend lives with me cause his parents don't live in the same state and don't look after him properly, he doesn't have any way of supporting himself cause he's at college. If i leave him, he won't have anywhere to stay. I feel guilty sometimes because i don't know what i really want and what i think changes a lot but at the end of every day, i do love him.. and i love him for changing for me.Has anyone ever had any experience like this? What do you think i should do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2011): I am in a similar situation. ive been with my boyfriend for quite sometimes now, and he changed a lot for me, but there was this time where i met a guy that showed a lot of interest in me, he was very senitive polite and romantic, but i had to cut every connection with him when i got back with my boyfriend. most of us has the "grass is always greener on the other side symptoms, and many many times i think to myself if im really happy with my boyfriend as we are now or i can be happier with someone else. am i just attached to my boyfriend because im used to him or because i love him capital L ?
Some experiences helped me and ive been through alot of difficulties lately but my boyfriend was there for me and helped me get through them, and i appreciated that a lot. Day by day you'll know if ur boyfriend is the right guy for u, but for tht u have to use ur mind and heart, and not feel guilty if his oarents left him or he doesnt have anywhere to go. think about urself and how u feel and when u feel that when ur with ur boyfriend,u stop looking at other guys as being potential interest, then ur sure.
Take ur time to decide
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