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writes:Hi i am 12 years old,I have this boyfriend that i love very much,but i dono if he love me too?and i was thinking of having sex with him help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): dont do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2007): You are way too young to have sex.
Period.
It doesn't matter how much you think you love him.
Perhaps the two of you will someday love eachother and decide you want to engage in a sexual relationship. But any age really before 16 is too young to make that decision.
Once you can have an open conversation about sex with him, your parents, and your gynocologist, without giggling, you might be ready.
As for not knowing about his feelings for you, try asking him. Or one of his friends.
But really hun, having sex at such a young age is something you will regret.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2007): You're only 12 years old and its not advisable for you to make sex to anybody, you're too young for that. Ask your bf if he loves you too, that's it.
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reader, BreeBree +, writes (16 November 2007):
All, I can say is don't do it. Don't have sex with a guy because you want to keep him around. This is the perfect situation for a women or girl to feel used and abandoned. No matter how much you love him you have a wonderful life ahead of you with so much potentional. You are amazing and shouldn't have to have sex with someone to keep him around. It doesn't work either.
It really does make things more complicated. Also, men are notorious for being with women to only have sex and then dumping them or only being with them because they do have sex. You don't want to be one of those women who only has a boyfriend because he wants to have sex with you and nothing else.
Be who you are. If he doesn't love you, someone else will. They will make you feel loved and like SUCH a great catch. And the hurt will subside. If you do break up with him eventually, you will feel better if you haven't had sex with him. I'm also available for a private message. if you want to give or get more details!
Take Care
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (16 November 2007):
 I don't mean to come off as an asshole here, but there's no way you love your boyfriend, infatuated sure, but it's not love.
You're 12, you don't know what love is really, I'm 17 and I still debate if I'm old enough to fall in love with someone.
Also, you're way too young for sex, you'll feel horrible, your boyfriends body isn't even developed enough to have sex, neither is yours. Not to mention if you have sex at 12 and anyone finds out you'll be ridiculed for it the rest of your years through school, I guarantee it.
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reader, forver..or is it a dream? +, writes (15 November 2007):
 O my god! You are twelve and wanting sex? Okay first back up and rewind! Why do you want to have sex? No offence hon but your twelve, and you don't know what love is. I know it may feel like it and you feel like you have to do anything in your power to keep the relatoinship al float but that is not the answer!!! I am 17 and have been dating this guy for for 4 years. I do like him very much and I would say love because I do but "I love you" are the three most beautiful words ever! And when you say themn they have to be true!!! Just 12 or so? boystake 4-ever to grow up!!! And sex is an expressoin of love. You do it to show love to someone, and I don't waqnt you to think I am some grinch or something but you do not need to be haveing or thinking about sex!!!! I don't think you relize how complicated sex can get. Doing it is easy but the consaquences are not!!!! You could get pregnat, a diseas, mess up your body becasue your so young, you will probly be called horrible names at school, and sex DOES NOT secure a relatoinship!!! PLZ PLZ PLZ PLz send me a private message telling me more I really want to help!!! My very good friend was in a similar case like you when she was 14. She thought she really liked this guy and he wasn't so in to her. So she had sex with him, well the condom broke and she ended up getting pregnat. She had the baby and hasn't been physicaly or emotoinaly right since. Oh and the guy she slept with dumped her right after they had sex no joke two hours after they had sex!!! S plz plz plz think!!!
-Bella
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reader, forver..or is it a dream? +, writes (15 November 2007):
O my god! You are twelve and wanting sex? Okay first back up and rewind! Why do you want to have sex? No offence hon but your twelve, and you don't know what love is. I know it may feel like it and you feel like you have to do anything in your power to keep the relatoinship al float but that is not the answer!!! I am 17 and have been dating this guy for for 4 years. I do like him very much and I would say love because I do but "I love you" are the three most beautiful words ever! And when you say themn they have to be true!!! Just 12 or so? boystake 4-ever to grow up!!! And sex is an expressoin of love. You do it to show love to someone, and I don't waqnt you to think I am some grinch or something but you do not need to be haveing or thinking about sex!!!! I don't think you relize how complicated sex can get. Doing it is easy but the consaquences are not!!!! You could get pregnat, a diseas, mess up your body becasue your so young, you will probly be called horrible names at school, and sex DOES NOT secure a relatoinship!!! PLZ PLZ PLZ PLz send me a private message telling me more I really want to help!!! My very good friend was in a similar case like you when she was 14. She thought she really liked this guy and he wasn't so in to her. So she had sex with him, well the condom broke and she ended up getting pregnat. She had the baby and hasn't been physicaly or emotoinaly right since. Oh and the guy she slept with dumped her right after they had sex no joke two hours after they had sex!!! S plz plz plz think!!! -Bella
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reader, whiteshadow  +, writes (15 November 2007):
 im not usualy the type to spam someones question with a negative answer but..12 really is too young to even say that. your not even a teenager yet. You have all your life to do that. I want to give you advice but as i said your not even a teenager so i find it hard too. sorry
Maybe you should start hanging with your friends more and do things you should be doing.
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