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anonymous
writes: ok, with a kind loving and very thoughtful man.... only 1 problem with him..... he tries his hardest but his bedroom techniques arent turning me on.... on the other hand have a friend at work n we occassionally have txt sex and i get more aroused by his txts than my bf's techniques.... really annoyed with myself for the betrayal but i also have needs.... he has no problem in the orgasm side of things and i know it bothers him that it does nothing for me but i dunno what to do.... i love him to bits other than that....
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): heya... i think you could direct him.. it obously is not his fault if he is bad. always remeber that practice makes perfect and the first or the few times you do it are just the start so he will always impove.. and if you love him alot then you would not let it bother you if he is not up to your expectations.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): I think you cant blame him completely on this one, I mean isnt sex supposed to be a joint effort?. What I mean is if there is something he is doing that you dont like then why dont you gently move him to an area where you would like attention and say something like "I love it when you touch me here", or "when you do this it drives me crazy"!. You need tos how him how you like things done, any Man would appreciate a point in the right direction as every Woman is different, and we all like different things. So Stop putting the blame solely on him and show the poor guy how you like things to be done.
Once you start communicating then things should improve.
okay good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): Have you talked with him during sex? You know that a big part of sex is open talkative and expressive communication right? Sex isn't just one person trying to make the other satisfied. Sometimes, people aren't as quick to learn or natural at it intially. I think you just have to be patient and be explorative together, talk, communicate, keep the action/reaction going. Open him to other sexual alternatives - eg: tying you up to a wheel/hook on the ceiling, douse you with buckets of lube while your squirm around in your tighty whitey thong and wet tank top. Let's see how well he can control himself. Adorn your vagina with candy sprinkles and syrup, and tell him to lick it as he would a lollipop or popsicle. Ask him to finger you in the motion like expressing "come here" but rapidly.
You know?
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