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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello! I am so confused. My ex left me three months ago claiming that he still had feelings for his ex. But now he is back and telling me that he loves me and has tried things out with her but feels nothing for her. He wants to settle down with me. The thing is that I believe that he does love me... My question is how do you forgive? Is this something you can forgive? I think back to the pain when he left and also I found a love letter he wrote to her when he left me and it was so intense. Is it possible that he is over her already? I want to try and make it work but the words he wrote to her keep coming into my mind so one minute I love him the next I hate him. What should I do? Please help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys for your responses. It means alot to me. I will keep you posted! xx
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (15 November 2007):
 Such a tough situation, because you really seem to love this guy, and understandably it is hard for you to believe he feels the same way about you. Especially if he wrote such an intense letter to his EX.
Thing you have to ask yourself, are you okay with being second in his life. He's put you second before, and when it didn't work out with number one, he's back at number 2's door.
That is not fair.
I don't know this guy, and i don't know the relationship you've had, but i DO know that everybody deserves a second chance. I would see how this works out. Give him another chance, but give 100%. He is back, and that is what counts. Try and forget about the ex, but have an open mind.
Also - be honest with him and communicate your feelings. This way, he will know exactly where he stands.
Good luck - and keep us posted.
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