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*arcilene
writes:Dear I just want your help, because I have nobody to talk about my relationship. So I have been one years and 3 month with my boyfriend, and i gave him all my best and i keep doing that everyday.So during the time,i gave him space to go out all the time with friends, not with me.Now we brak-up but we're still living together because he cares about me and i can't leave him cuz i love him so much thats the reason i'm still living in the same house. But it hurts me a lot because all the time when i see him get ready to go out, it makes feel really sad, and i can sleep weel with out him.He aid that he don't want to leave me, he want me around, but he don't love me, he said that. He didn't know what he want,So after our brake-up he started to go out with another girl, but i'm still love him and i can't go out wtih another guy cuz i just want him. So dear I jus want to know what I have to do to feel better and what I can do to forget him and leave him. I need your help please tell me something. Reply to this Question
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reader, marcilene +, writes (23 February 2008):
marcilene is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks alot for your help
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reader, marcilene +, writes (22 February 2008):
marcilene is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Dear for all your help,I'm going to think about all u tell me in this message. I think I'm feel alittle better to know that you are my friend. Thanks I'm gonna be more strong now, this message for sure is gonna help me.
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reader, jabey  +, writes (22 February 2008):
it is so painful when you love someone and they do not feel the same way. Of course he still wants you there, its nice to know someone is there for you waiting and ready to take you back whenever you should feel like it. But do you know by always being there waiting, feeling sad, that is a sure fire way to make someone want to leave.
Remeber you dont need someone, we need air, we need food and water, we dont need someone, we just want them, love them and desire them.
In life we must always maintain a bit of who we are. who are you ? whats your favourite colour/ whats your favouriet film? what food do you like?
Have you any interests/ do you love your job/ do you like dance? music? art?.
Think about who you are.
Then go out and do the things you love. Have you good friends ? if so spend time with them doing things you enjoy.
Think about yourself. have you ever thought that if this man saw you going out having fun, living your life, and not needing him so much, maybe this would interest him more.
And although you say you dont wish to date anyone else, just try, go out with other men, have fun, it does not mean you have to fall in love with them or have a relationship, it just means you might have your ego boosted and make some new friends.
I bet if this man sees you doing your own thing he may well get jealous and jealousy is a great way of finding out how much someone cares.
But in the meantime by starting to live your own life, you will gradually feel stronger and better about yourself and your loss. in time you will be having so much fun the thoughts of sadness will subside.
To really love someone is to allow them to go, and respect their choice, by accepting it and moving on, with pride and determination.
Who knows if he sees a new you he may want you back, we all desire fun interesting people, not sad needy people who cling and are always there.
If he does not seem to want you back, by discovering the parts of you that are special you will feel better all round. I mean you survived without him before you met him and you will survive without him now.
And just maybe on your journey you will meet someone who dearly loves you, would rather be with you than his friends, you deserve that.
Carry on with your life and if he wants you back be sure to maintian who you are.
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