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writes:Ok.. well.. I have known this guy for almost 3 years now. When I first met him he became like a dad to me. but for the last year I have been having stronger feelings for him. He is married, and I am 20 and he is 43. We talk and text often and even meet up for breakfast or lunch or just at starbucks every once in a while. When we say good bye I always get upset and often feel like crying because I long to be with him. I think about him ALL the time, and get excited about the simplest text from him like a smiley..I want to tell him how I feel so bad, but, well, for one he is married, and I am also afraid that he wont feel the same, or worse, that he decides we should not see each other or talk to each other as much. Please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2008): Loving the way you feel when you are with him is a window into your capacity to experience deep emotion . . . this is a gift he brings to you and one you give to him in return. Celebrate the sacredness of the connection you've made . . . and allow it to be enough. Ultimately cheating and sneaking around carries a low vibration energy. Stay open the universe is abundant. You deserve to be with someone who is free to be with you without conditions. He deserves the opportunity to look inside himself and find the dreams he may have deferred and identify how he can fulfill them without hurting himself or any one else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay.. thank you all for the advice! I thought about how much stuff I already talk to him about and figured that he could prob handle me expressing my feelings to him.. the last thing i would want is for him to leave his wife for me or whatever.. I just need to be able to let him know how I feel. So I told him how I feel. He smiled, and said that he understands, and im not weird and im not broken or anything.. and since he is like a dad to me, he said that this is okay.. It is cool for a daddy to hear that his little girl is in love with him, and wants to be with him, but then after she learns better she no longer wants to marry her daddy, but wants to marry a man like her daddy (only better).. He responded as a dad would have.. and im glad he did.. and yes.. I still feel the same at times, but now when i get those feelings i just think about how awesome my husband will be. :)
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reader, kell7998 +, writes (28 November 2008):
 ok, I am going through the same thing! im 17 and I am in love with a 26 year old married man. when we text if I get a response I smile and get so excited! even if its only a wink ;) well Monday I told him, through a text but still. I said im in love with a married man, and he said haha..whats his name? I said his name and he told me to dump my ex and get over him. I was so scared to tell him, but now he is saying things like I will know how things are different when im 18. Your 20, so I think you should just tell him! drop hints about it, and then tell him.
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reader, Good advice!  +, writes (25 November 2008):
i agree with blackroses2989, if you love him, then you have to understand that with his wife is where he is "most likely" going to be happy.
you are young and full of youth :)
just ride the train that is life and you will find a new station :) i promise! *hugs*
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reader, thelittleone! +, writes (25 November 2008):
 Hey!
sweetheart.. u should be honest with urself!
and what do u think if u are the wife and ur husband is dating other girls?..
maybe it can be hard to understand but u are young in couple of years he's gonna be old! ..
c'mon
start dating new guys!
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reader, blackroses2989 +, writes (24 November 2008):
 Oh honey thats hard it sounds like you love him but you must realize that he has a wife that loves him very much the same way. I'm sorry honey but I recommend you don't tell him. You wont want to be the one to break up his marriage just because you want him. I'm sorry I'm sure there will be another man in your future.
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