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36-40,
*ilysunshine
writes:my boyfriend and i have been together 2 years now in a long distance relationship. he barely talks to me now a days. says hes too busy with his work and parties every weekend. i feel really dejected. i know he will not cheat on me. he is 5 years older than i am and is looking to settle down quite early. i am studying to be a dentist and i have no plans of settling down in a marriage this early. there is not one day gone without my crying. my problems:1. he doesn't not spend much time with me. 2. i try spice up things, give him cards, surprise meals, handmade gifts etc. he does nothing. absolutely nothing in return. i being a real enthusiast always end up in vain.3. he puts me on his reject list all the time in case my calls cross 5 times4. its always i who has to say sorry and go back crawling to him.5. i lost my virginity to him, and he has already had sex with 3 girls before me, so it kinda grosses me out and makes me feel like a fool every time we fight6. he swears he loves me but i dont really feel it. saying it doesnt suffice,does it?7. i am way smarter, richer and brighter with a wonderful career ahead. i have no need to settle down, but i don't know if its the right decision to move on so rashly. i do love this guy but i dont get enough from him8. the sex usually isn't great(i dont know, coz i have nothing to compare it with). i always make sure he finishes it even if i dont.(it is quite painful too, but i dont tell coz i want him to have it. later in the bathroom i suffer quite a bit)i am basically a confident and an enthusiastic person. this guy makes me everything that i am not. i don't know if i am doing the right thing. please help!!
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reader, supermum  +, writes (15 November 2011):
 I think you already know the answer to this.... if you are not happy, do not stick with it. It seems like he is with you out of convinience rather than anything else. You say it is a long distance relationship, but it cannot be toooo long distance if you are able to have an intimate relationship together.
I wish you all the best, but I must admit it does not look good.
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