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writes:I am 13 yearls old and well i like this girl and well im a litle over weight slightly not good looking... and one of her friends hate me. i tried asking her out today but i kind of got well really nervous and decided to kind of walk away, any tips i know i can just ask do you want to go out? but what can i do to make her happy if she says yes? and should i kiss her on the first day or some other time? someone plz help i really really love her and cant live without her ive been thinking about asking her out like 3 years ago but i stil got nervous plz help? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2010): I think it's best to talk to her when you are walking somewhere, like maybe between classes. Standing face-to-face can make you more nervous. You will be able to tell if she is interested by how she reacts. Start by kissing her on the cheek either on the first or second day. Move on to kissing her on the lips when it seems right, but if you have braces make sure that they are clean (maybe rinse your mouth with water after lunch).
As for thinking you are not good looking or a little overweight, try to focus instead on your good qualities-- what would make you a good boyfriend? Are you honest? Faithful? Will you stick up for her? Will you pay her a compliment every once in a while, or tell her that having her as your girlfriend makes you happy?
If you decide you would like to improve your appearance or lose body fat, you could start strength training-- try a website like stronglifts.com to learn about getting into shape. Another way to improve your appearance is to get regular haircuts at a good salon. Your self-confidence and appearance might also improve if you do things like floss your teeth every night, trim your nails and keep them free of dirt, shave your face regularly, and wear antiperspirant every day. Keeping your room clean, playing a sport (strength training is also good because you don't have to be on a team and it will make you better at other sports and in PE) or playing an instrument, doing art, and doing well in school will also help you feel proud of yourself. What do you want to learn-- How to cook a steak? How to fix a car or check the oil? How the government works? Whatever it is, start learning about something-- anything-- that YOU are interested in, and learn everything you can about it.
I hope she says yes.
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reader, iSmil3y +, writes (29 April 2010):
My boyfriend is overweight too but I don't see anything wrong with it, I think he's gorgeous. If that's what's making you nervous, don't think about how you look, if she's really a nice girl, she won't care. Every guy is nervous talking to a girl he likes but, once you do it, you'll be happy you did. Just take a deep breath and tell yourself "I can do this" otherwise, you might miss your chance and another guy could ask her out. Just ask her! Don't be nervous! Tell me how it goes(:
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reader, x-sevii-x  +, writes (29 April 2010):
 i think the best thing 2 do is 2 be yourself. if u act like sum1 ur not n she says yes, then she wont like u 4 u. but if ur yourself nd she says yeah that means she likes u 4 who u are!!! u shud deffo pluck up the courage 2 ask her out b4 its 2 l8, like me 4 example, i rrreeeeaaaalllllyyy fancied a boy @ school wen i woz 12, im 16 now nd left school :/. so do it whilst uve got the chance! nd who cares wot her friends think?! its her opinion that matters, if u really think she'll make a decision becoz of her friends then get her alone. and the whole kissing her stituation, only kiss her on the 1st date if u feel she wants 2 (movin closer 2 u, touchin u). hope all that helps :) xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2010): Have you tried to hangout with her and her friends? I know her friends "hates you" but maybe is just your perception. Do you talk to the girl you like? are you friends with her? if not, have you tried to first get to hangout with her and then go from there? But I know what you mean. You have two options, to try to hangout with her and her friends and do stuff and when she feel comfortable and the time comes, ask her out or kiss her and stuff. The other option is just go to her and ask her out by inviting to something she likes or something. I really do not know how things work with the new generation but all I can tell you is that you need to be strong and ask and if she rejects you, go to the next girl; if she accepts then do things she likes and you like and eventually kiss her. You say that "you can not live without her"; that does not sound too good; I'm almost like that and it it not good; we need to learn to put our energies in more than one girl and not put all our happiness in one one girl; that is dangerous. Go get her and have fun and do not take that stuff too seriously! The best.
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