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female
age
36-40,
*isskicks
writes:Im currently 18 weeks pregnant (with my first child =))and i just became "friends" with a guy who i've had a crush on since my crushes began. I mean that seriously and although he doesn't remember the chubby me from that era, he was my first crush ever. What i love (not in the literal sense) about him most is that the way i thought he would be (kind of bad ass like everyone thinks he is) he's not. From the moment we began talking, he had me dying laughing and vice versa. I tend to be picky and judgemental before I talk to a dude and usually end it there on the first night but he makes me WANT to actually call back when i say i will. Since i've been pregnant he's actually the first one im interested in and wouldnt mind keeping around. Although im 18 weeks pregnant, you can't really tell eventually i have to admit the reason for my "gut", im afraid that it will end it as soon as it started, like i said, he seems like a really cool person and the fact that i felt so comfortable with him (which is rare) makes me iffy that if i tell him, he'll move along. I dont know how i should bring it up, when i should bring it up and what to expect when and if his response isnt what i want to hear. Although he has a son of his own, his is not still in the womb (i think he's 5). I know that its a lot for a guy to be there for a woman, who's pregnant by someone else but my baby's father and i are too done with eachother, we dont even speak and it's not like im looking for a "baby daddy backup", i just really like him. what should i do?
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reader, oma  +, writes (1 April 2012):
Tell him
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): You do need to tell him before anything happens otherwise he'll feel like you've misled him into a relationship under false pretenses. It shouldn't be too hard to bring up and he already has a child. Yes, he may run but you can still stay friends.
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