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writes:I'm 13 and so is my boyfriend. I really truly love him but I lied to him about not being a virgin and he believes me. Should I tell him that I am or should it remain a secret ? Reply to this Question
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reader, minex  +, writes (4 March 2009):
darling, you're 13!
he should expect you to be a virgin, and if he wants to have sex with you just to change that fact then he isn't worth anything.
tell him you're a virgin,
him thinking you're not a virgin will put a lot of pressure on him if he is.
it will pressure you both into sex, which would be completely unnecessary.
be proud of your virginity
seriously, im on college, and hardly any of the people i know are virgins, and the ones that are virgins, they're proud, and people respect them for it.
don't feel the pressure to sound experienced, you'l get a hell of a lot of hormones racing through your body, i did, like seriously annoying, masterbate, you'l get through it.
you don't need to lie about yourself
i hope it all orks out
minex
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reader, tux +, writes (28 February 2009):
 What is the purpose of telling him that you are not a virgin? What is the thought process, because I am very curious. You are not the first one to ask this recently. Why are you telling them you are not? I mean seriously, lying about that will bring upon more trouble than lying that you are a virgin. A) He's going to think that he can get an easy lay because you've had sex before. B) He will get disappoint when you tell him that you are not ready. C) He's going to get more forceful and either D) Guilt you into sex or E) Physically force you into sex.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (28 February 2009):
 Tell him and please, be very proud that you are still a virgin. There is nothing romantic or special about losing your virginity to the wrong guy. I was 15 when I lost mine, and it wasn't to anyone I loved or felt a special connection with. To this day I wish I had waited and not been so worried about being a virgin at 15.
If he thinks less of you for being a virgin, then find yourself a new BF, because your health and well-being are not worth anyone who won't respect you.
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reader, andrew loves hali +, writes (28 February 2009):
 be honest with him
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): 13 is a really young age to be having sex, but I think it best to tell your boyfriend the truth, rather then him finding out some other way.
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reader, KiaGrace  +, writes (28 February 2009):
 Thirteen?Thirteen?Stick with dolls..I lost my virginity at thirteenand I have regreted it ever since, your bodyisnt fully developed and lots of other things.Tell him you ARE still a virgin.
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