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I lied about having an abortion and now I am scared I cant have children.

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Question - (14 November 2007) 4 Answers - (Newest, 25 February 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I am 24 and have been trying for a baby with my husband for 9 months now. When i first met him i was young and stupidly told him that i'd had an abortion to try to look mature. Its was such a horrible thing to lie about but now i'm worried i can't have children and i can never tell him it was a lie or he'd leave me!!!! Please can you give me any advice how to find out if everything is ok with me.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008):

I had an abortion 13yrs ago. And up until 2 weeks ago I did not know if all was ok. I suggest to go see your gyny - you don't have to lie I mean men run and hid when it is a woman issue. Knowing is better than not knowing - Good Luck :-)

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A female reader, sexi South Africa +, writes (14 November 2007):

sexi agony auntHi

You should go to the doctor and see hoe fertile you are. I think that if you do then you would know for sure so that you can decide what do to from there. If it is nothing then you should just relax, Also because you are stessing to have a baby then that could be a reason as to why you are unable to concieve. Go to the doctor.

Regards,mail me if you wanna talk

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2007):

My dear lieing is a very bad thing and remember every thing that you confess,you'll posess it.But you can try n visit a doctor for you never know that n thing could be the matter.

It could also be a problem associated with your husband.May be the two of you can see the doctor

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2007):

Hi, right for a start calm down. You have told a lie, you can do one or two things.

Come clean and let him know that you feel terrible but you did tell the lie and you dont know why you did it. It was pathetic and you wished you hadnt done it, what is he going to do?

Or say nothing and wait and see what happens. i did have an abortion when i was 17. Sorry to all the anti-abortion people out there but i was young and foolish and couldnt even take care of myself never mind a child. I got married when i was 18 and we tried for kids two years later. It took another 2 years before i fell pregnant and believe me i thought i couldnt have kids because i had damaged my body because of the abortion.

Just relax and try and be patient. I bet once you do that you will fall pregnant. If you are worried then i would have a word with your doctor and get him to check you out. You may just be worrying unduly.

Do take care and let me know how you get on.

xx

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