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writes:I have let a man use me.because i felt so low bout myself thats how he made me feel. And thought i wasnt worth anything else! It puts me in such a negative state of mind! Comments like im with u cos i like to do my bit 4 charity.i feel sorry 4 you.youve put on weight.are your mates fit.girls are after me all the time. I never look at anyone else when im with u just when your not! My ex used to let me have anal sex! Your thick. A dickhead. U bore me.these r just a few comments! All said in a jokey way and he said i dont mean it. Plus he would go out wouldnt take me then i see pics of him and ex girlfriends having a laugh! But for some strange reason i cling to him. He also good at charming. Says things to me also like. Your the best thing to happen to me. Your a princess. Your so special. We broke up for 6 months i fouund out he had slept with 10 women which he loved to tell me! While i spent 6 months being depressed. Worrying what he was doing and hoping he would come back! Why do i do this? I just seem to think sometimes i dont want him happy while i feel like this! And i think he will be nice to the next girl and it wont be fair! Cos im miserable and lonely! I hate the thought of him charmimg every women he comes across and them thinking hes louely. I just wanna scream at the top of my voice hes a dickhead he hurt me so much and im so angry. Hows the best to get over it? I cant c a positive outcome 4 me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2009): The positive outcome for you would be to get the hell away from him NOW!
He is using those insults as a way of controlling you! He is verbally and emotionally abusing you! He has you believing that you do not deserve to be treated any better. And your dependence on him is just what he wants! He knows you will be there for him no matter what!
Funny thing about comments...the positive one's seem to go in one ear and out the other...the negative one's, however can stay with us for a lifetime! It is up to you to delete those negative msgs from your head...they are just lies that he uses to control you!
You do not deserve this treatment. You need to stand up to him and tell him to f**k-off! Trust me, I know from experience, you will be better off without him!
If you want to know how I finally stood up to my ex, and walked away...pvt message me and I will be glad to tell you!
Be Strong, Love Yourself!
Britt
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