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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello to all!So here is my dilemma, I have been dating this girl for about 3 years now. It is true love like I have never felt before...I am 28 and have been around the block so don't ping me. I know my girlfriend feels the same way, we never argue or fight and are always very considerate of each others feelings. Well she was accepted for an out of state internship and is going to pursue it. I was supposed to go with her so we could start a new life elsewhere.She has since told me that she wants to go alone and be independent for a while. Which means us breaking up. I was thrown back at the idea for a couple of days and felt jaded at her lack of consideration for me cause this came out of nowhere and hit me like a ton of bricks. I always thought we had a great relationship and have always been honest with our feelings. I completely understand what she wants and am in no way holding her back from her dreams and what she wants. But I just can't help wondering why she doesn't want to stay together and just do the long distance thing, I know our relationship is strong enough to support it and can thrive through the distance. I am basically wanting to wait for her to make up her mind and eventually reunite. Six months is nothing in the grand scheme of things in my eyes. I guess I am just asking for peoples' opinions on what they think of my situation. Any advice would help! Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): I suggest talking to her about it AND TELLING HER EVERYTHING YOU JUST TOLD US, you must understand communication is the key to solving problems and it looks like you are about to dig yourself a deep hole unless you press foward to her with this issue, dont sound to demanding or clingy just be cool with it and say that you would like the commmitment to stand during the 6 months, but then also say that alot of communication wont have to be nessesary so she can be independent and what not, just aslong as you trust eachother and plan things after the 6 months so there are things to look foward to, 6 months may seem like nothing but it will be once you are seperated by the miles. Hope all works out for you goodluck!
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