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writes:I am 25 I have a daughter with my ex. We have been broken up for at least 5 years. I was in a relationship after that and when we broke up seeing guys here and there. I know I'm still young but I'm so scared to be alone. I was trying to explain to my daughter what step brothers and step sisters are, and when doing so i used the example if i were to get married, and she replied yeah right like that will happen, which indeed brought tears to my eyes. The only man shes been around is her dad. I would never bring a man around her unless i knew it was long term. I weigh 220lbs but I am very pretty. I'm working on taking care of myself not only for me to look and feel better but the well being of my daughter. It seems like once someone loses weight they seem to find hapiness in a relationship. I'm just really feeling in the pits right now. And it always seems like the guys I do meet, it's just sexual. Please help!
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reader, Firefighter's Wife 09 +, writes (2 February 2009):
Oh babe! I know this is what everyone has said, but don't stress! Here is a cliché for you! Haven't you ever heard that when you stop looking, that's when you find someone? Watch "Under The Tuscan Sun" and pay attention to the lady bug story! Its the whole reason I have my lady bugs on my neck and how I met my husband! Take care of you first! If you aren't happy with your weight join weight watchers or do some yoga in your home, its super easy! But! If you think you need to lose weight to find a guy don't worry about it! You will find that hit that loves you for you! No matter what your weight! Its better to have a little meat on you than have a guy be afraid he's going to break you because you are so tiny! Good luck girl! You will find him one day!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (1 February 2009):
 Oprah Winfrey mode. If you want to find happiness in love you got to learn to love yourself first.
Or put another way, only when you are happy to be on your own, can you be happy with some else.
Until then, as long as you date because you are scared to be alone, you will end up with the dregs of this world because you will be going for the first that gives you the time of day rather then being comfortable to wait till you find someone who is right for you.
You can loose half your weight, look like a supermodel and still end up in failed relationship after failed relationship.
Find happiness within, not depending on some guy.
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