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writes:HEy everyone!So i need some advice, yeasturday i planned this romantic evening for my boyfriend, i knew hes been stressed at work and tired, so i put some rose petals on the bed, fake ones, and his favorite cady, i planned on givinging him a back rub and nothing else, so he comes home and i take him down strairs, usually when we do something romantic is a cute thing cause we never do things like that, but he looked at me and just said "are you serious im tired and dont wanan do this" so i started picking things up and said sorry i made it worse, cause he didnt even acknowledge my effort.we sat on the bed and he asked "where do you think this relationship is going" i simply replied "no where good now" and he said we needed to break up, and that he didnt think he loved me. so that was that i got my stuff out in my car, i went back down stairs to make sure i got everything and asked him "you make sure this is what you reallyt wat casue once i leave im not coming back" and he told me "well maybe we just need a week break" then he took me and hugged me like he really loved me, then kissed me. So i called him later to make tearms on the break, hed call me and all, then i told him i loved him at the end and he didint and said "if were doing this we gotta do it right" which i understand he needs a break from emitional stuff, i just need to know how i can keep this relationship going... and i dont want to hear about breakuping up with he and he doesnt care, he does, and he does love me,i just wanna know whow to keep it strong, and erase the breaking up from his mind, and how to get closer without smothering him. hes really stressed wich is why...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, i dont think it was me doing that that made him mad, it probably just set it off, but he told me he was thinking about it for a few days now... od im not sure
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (24 July 2012):
 Well...this is one of those instances where what happened is not the fault of either of you. What he should have said is "Honey, I really like what you did for me, but I am really tired tonight. Can we postpone this until tomorrow night?" and then given you a big hug and kiss. Instead, he was kind of short about it, even though he was truthful. He is probably thinking it would have been more thoughtful of you to think that he would probably be tired when he got home and just had a nice meal and warm bed waiting for him. See what I mean? He should have recognized you WERE trying to be thoughtful.
I don't really think your relationship is in trouble. I think you are just going through things that all couples go through. Why don't you just sit down with him and tell him that you were trying to be thoughtful that night and if you upset him that you are sorry. He should also apologize to you though for treating you like he did.
I think this is mainly your age. You should not let one incident break up a relationship. On the other hand though, he said he didn't love you at first. You'd better make sure of what his feelings really are before you jump back into this.
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