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*laire-kelly
writes:I split up with my partner 4 months ago i was the one that ended it but i want him back. I told him this just weeks after he left he was not bothered and was nasty and said some hurtfull things which i understand why. I did this we have been seeing one another for 6 weeks now but only as friends at first it was a little more but not enough. Then he said it had to stop and we can only be friends since this has happened he has been told he has a tumor on his aorta he has to have chemotherophy for this. I no how ill he will become but it still dont stop me from wanting him back. I really dont no what to do i have told him how i feel a few times but its like he dont listen. can anyone help and give me advice on how to have him back in my life
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (9 January 2011):
For most people, something like cancer, a tumour or another life changing illness genuinely is a life changing moment. And that's what's happened here with your ex.
Things were clearly not working out between you before he found out what he had, and I think that the tumour has made him totally re-evaluate his life, and re-evaluate where's going.
The problem for you is that he will re-evaluate what you mean to him. Sadly, given his current circumstances, I think that means you will be very much cut out in terms of romance/relationships. He now needs time to come to terms with what he's facing, and he just won't be able to think about getting back with you.
All you can do right now is be a friend. He needs that more. Maybe when it's over, something might be worked out. But my gut feeling is that what you had before is gone, and that you need to move on.
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