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writes:heya im 16 and i have been with my bf for over a month now and the relationship is going really well. the thing is i REALLY want to fall in love with him. thats just what i keep thinking "am i falling inlove with him, i hope i am". and "i just wanna fall inlove with him cos apparently its such a nice feeling." and stuff like that!why am i thinking like this?and will this prevent me from falling inlove with him do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, cd206 +, writes (5 February 2007):
 You can't force yourself to fall in love with someone and by trying to, you're probably making it even harder for it to happen. Relax and enjoy your relationship. Being in love is a nice feeling but not one you can force.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (5 February 2007):
 Hey there,
Yep. I think thinking like this will prevent you from actually doing it. You're putting a lot of pressure on your feelings and they're just going to let you down when you put 'love' so high up on a pedestal.
Falling in love is a gradual and unstoppable thing. You also can't MAKE it happen. It just does. If your relationship is going really well with this guy, just appreciate it for what it is and have fun with him! Enjoy him! And the less you think about "am I falling in love?" "Is this love?", the more room you give love to happen.
Falling in love is a nice feeling, but it's also a pain in the bum. Being in love is hard work. It takes a lot of effort and patience and time to make a relationship work, and being in love can make things hurt even more. Love is very special, but it's a big committment.
Sounds like you have a great guy. Just have fun with him and enjoy being in a relationship. Love will find you - whether it be with this guy, or in a couple of years with someone entirely different!
xxIndia
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