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*olakemi lawal
writes:I am in relationship with a guy, he had a problem in school so he left. we see each other on hols and had sex, so many times he confessed his love to me and i went for it. i was happy until he sent me a msg on whatsapp that he is in love with his sister's friend, he blocked me on whatsapp and told me never to call him in my life....I am so confused i love him dearly,I have invested all i have ön, i gave everything and i dont wanna let go. what do i do? my friends told me not to call him Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (19 December 2012):
 He used you for sex. STOP trying to fix this, there is nothing to fix.
Your friends are right, do not call him, thank your lucky star he didn't get you pregnant.
And what exactly is it that you LOVE so dearly about him? Him using you? Then dropping you like a rock when he gets a shot at his sister's friend? or him dumping you via whatsapp?
He's a loser honey.
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reader, chinana  +, writes (19 December 2012):
 Oh dear OP what an awful time you must be going through. I truly feel for you, but the truth of the matter is SOME boys not necessarily all of them say all kinds of things to get sex. Yes they will even tell you that they love you when they dont mean it. Your friends are right you shouldnt call him, dont contact him, this might be difficult because all you want is to make him reassure you that he cares for you, but if you do this you will only embarrass yourself. Look at it this way you have seen his true colours now, he is not a nice guy because nice guys respect other peoples feelings and you deserve to be with a guy who treats you with respect.Let this also be a lesson to you OP when you have sex with a boy that doesnt mean automatically you are in a relationship, take time to find out a guy's intentions before you sleep with him okay. Goodluck.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (19 December 2012):
Hes moved on. You need to as well.
Regarding investing in relationship, Im going to give you some golden advice at your age. NEVER EVER listen to what a man SAYS to you. ALWAYS watch what he DOES. That will tell you what is really going on in his head.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2012): You should not call him. Maintain no contact and move on. If you chase after him, you are still not going to get him back and you are going to feel like a fool and hurt even more.
What is the point of contacting him, if its only going to make you feel worst and hurt even more.
It is difficult now but it will get easier, just believe that you deserve better and he is not worth it. His loss not yours.
Try to keep in company, keep busy and try not too think about him, easy said than done but its possible. You decide how you want to travel this route, you can make it easier by letting go now or hold on and eventually you will have to let go. The sooner the better as the healing starts when you accept things as over.
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