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writes:Hi ima 17 year old girl ima virgin and I get horny really easy when ima around a guy and a girl and yes im bi I go for girl's mor but I currently have a boyfriend he's willing 2 wait form me but some time's I feel like im going 2 do some thing I regret we just met and iv only ben dating him for a month I don't want 2 rush and seem like im easy 2 get but now a day's their is no teenage girl that's a virgin just a few of us out their idk how 2 control my self 2 not go that far with him I know im ready to have sex I jus haven't known him long enough what do I do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009): wow thats a problem, aint it?
uhh well since you have only dated him for about a month, i agree with you that it is too soon to engage in intercourse with him, especially at 17. you dont want to let him bang you and "take" your viginity and then leave you (but i doubt it would happen, depends on the kind of guy he is).
i reccomend that you masturbate to control your desires for a while longer (like 5-8 months). if youre still together, then progress with petting, rubbing, humping, all that crap. after i personally would then start oral sex (make sure he has a certificate that says he is std or sti free) and mutual masturbation.
then after you feel like youre in a real loving relationship then go forth with intercourse. ive heard that intercourse is alot better when youre doing it with some one you love, especially when youre partner dosent have any technique whatsoever.
another reason why you should hold off is because often (exremely often) sex is portrayed to be this fantastic thing that will make you feel good about you and youre partner and that it will deepen youre love.
this is wrong as most men cannot bring a woman to orgasm (which is quite easy if they do it right) and may only end up disappointing the woman if he does not learn proper sexual techniques to be good in bed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009): It's totally normal for young teenagers to start to have sex before they feel totally ready for it.
But it's also normal for them to eventually regret doing it so early, too.
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reader, MissKin  +, writes (1 November 2009):
 I'm not sure i understand what is holding you back. If you feel ready to do it and you're worried you WILL do it because you can't 'control yourself' to not go 'that far' with him... why are you abstaining from doing it? Sometimes it's not about how long you've known someone or your age or anything, if it feels right then maybe it's right... but if you really do feel that you haven't known him long enough trust yourself enough to not do something you won't enjoy and wouldn't want to do. And if something does happen, don't regret it just because you didn't know each other very long...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009): you dont have to do anything you dont want to if you dont think that u are ready for sex then dont have sex if u think it will be hard to control yourself from having sex with this guy then dont put yourself in that situation you have to watch out for your self and your values this guy like all others just want to get in your pants and you being a virgin is a bonus so do what you fill is right
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