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writes: I have been going out with my boyfriend just short of a year and love him to bits. he's one the sweetest nicest guys I've ever known. since seeing him however, my self confidence has decreased a lot and I know I find myself constantly paranoid that he is seeing someone else. I'm sure I trust him and don't think he would ever do anything to hurt me. but my paranoia is really getting me down. its become so bad that recently i have been dreaming that he is sleeping with my flatmate. i don't want to tell him in case he thinks i am going crazy. but i dunno what to do. any ideas anyone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2006): Your problem may be poor self-esteem if he hasn't given you any reason to suspect he is indeed cheating on you. If you have a hard time enumerating your positive traits, maybe you should get your friends one by one to help you compile a list of your good qualities. They'll probably be delighted to do so, and once you have them all down you may find your paranoid fantasies waning a little. This is something you could include your boyfriend in, too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2006): Have you been badly hurt in past relationships? Because it sounds as though maybe someone in the past hurt you which has lead you to believe "All men are the same". I really think you should tell him about this so he can then reassure you if you dont think you can confront him then be careful it may seem like a small problem but if you try to cover it up it will grow until finally one day it has become out of control.
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