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*ali41
writes:I am involved with a married woman,not sexualy but intimantly.We have known each other for about a year. During which time I never shared my feelings until I couldn't resist letting her know. We both knew our feelings were strong for each other. We also knew her marriage has been in shamble's for the longest time. She has no kids. Any advise to me. other than "I made my bed know lay in it."
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reader, aunty chrissie  +, writes (12 June 2008):
 you are obviously both adults, and it must be very difficult for you both, but we cant control our feelings. i suppose it has to be said one good thing there arnt any children. less people to worry about. a year is a pretty long time, and you sound sure of your feelings. does she say she wants to leave her husband? there cant be a lot of love there well true love anyway or she wouldnt even think of seeing you whilst married. i dont condone what you are doing but if you BOTH really want to be together then go ahead and then all of you can get on with your lives. its the only answer i can come up with, hope it helps, oh and by the way we are only here once eh!
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reader, cali41 +, writes (11 June 2008):
cali41 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all so much for this insight. We are very open and she is as far as I can see a great woman. One with a honest but broken heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): While I understand that feelings take time to grow, if she is dissatisfied with her marriage, she needs to end it with her husband before coming to you.
You've only known her a year; it's not a long time... there may be aspects of her character you're not clear on yet. If she's cheating on her husband (again, gray area, fuzzy line, i don't know what you think constitutes cheating) then it's possible she'll do the same if she's not entirely happy with you either. Again, you need to be a good judge of character; that's something only you would know. Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): Why is she still in this marriage?
If you two want to be togehter, what is stopping her from getting a divorce!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): Give her an ultimatum. Say how you feel and explain they are strong feelings and how would she feel about taking it to the next level.
If she agrees with you and thinks she wants things to happen between the two of you. Make sure she ends it with her husband before hand.
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