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writes: Dear Cupid,I have absolutely no time to myself. Zero. I wake up at 5 AM three times a week to walk my dogs and go to school and I stay there till 5 PM. It takes me about 25 minutes to drive there and about 35 back. Frequently there is traffic. By the time I'm home I'm exhausted and don't want to do any studying or working out or even visiting my bf. I am drained, exhausted and I've been having similar schedules for the past 2 years. I just want to engage in some enjoyable activities for once. I don't want to be depressed anymore. I never want to see my boyfriend or do homework, I just want to sleep. My parents and bf have been noticing that I've changed and look restless. I have only one day off from work and school and when I do go to work, it's a 9-5 shift and I'm exhausted (work is also 25 minutes away). I'm forcing myself to do this because of the "name" that my school has - it is a very expensive private school and my parents are adamant about me staying. There is a school nearby that is almost the same quality but since it's very "ethnic" and cheaper (and crowded) my parents don't want me to attend. What can I do? I don't want to drive myself into a miserable ditch at 20 years old.
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reader, ashley2011  +, writes (20 September 2012):
 You need time management. Know what is priority of course you should include first of taken care your self.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2012): This is not something i would normally advise but take a day off sick, use it to go to the dr and tell them how your feeling, you may infact be depressed. Then come home and use the time to rest and gather your thoughts together before making another move. Its unfair of ur boyfriend to treat you in that way, are you sure he is the right person fir you? also have you thought about changing your job or asking for shorter working hours? If changing colleges meant you would be able to concentrate on your work , surely thats better than going to an expensive college and not coping or feeling able to do your work? maybe you should sit your parents down and talk to them. Sorry i cant be of more help, i hope you feel better soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2012): I'm also at college and I work part time as well ( the anonymus is right a lot of people do what you do) unfortunately I don't own a car so I take the metro, which is generally full so it means one hour standing, anyway I use this time o listen to audiobooks, music... ( reading is something I love but due to college I mostly read things related to that so audiobooks are pleasure reading for me.. ) when I'm at college between classes I go to the library to sleep, during weekdays I sleep only 4 hours so during weekends I sleep a lot but unlike you I don't feel tired all the time, you can do exercises they help me a lot, I run and I find it very helpful to sleep better and also after that I generally feel a lot more alert to study/clean or read something... take some time off to do some stuff you like, there can also be something wrong with what you're eating, maybe not enough or maybe you're lacking vitamins. I don't think you're depressed just tired, and if you don't have time to yourself is probably due to poor time management, most people work 8 to 5 and still find time to clean their houses, go to the gym, read, cook, do a lot of things when they get home, so there's probably some way to fit in some hobby into your schedule so that you won't be so miserable
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2012): Thanks for the answers so far. I do lots of yoga and am actually a very active person, not lazy at all. But lately, living on my own, I've been lethargic , sad and miserable. It's hurting my progress in school (I'm an A student)... But my bf is not understanding and tells me to transfer to his university and keeps criticizing the one I'm currently attending. He makes it really hard for me to go on with this routine because he claims I could have it so much easier but I'm "wearing" myself out....Instead of being supportive he takes the piss out of me for never seeing him and never telling him when I'm available to visit him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry correction : I am in fact a college student. I meant private university *
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (16 September 2012):
 Have you seen your doctor? There could be a medical reason for your exhaustion.
You DO need to add some exercise to your day, as odd as it may sound it CAN give you some more energy. Also you diet, are you eating healthy? and are you eating regularly?
You parents got you into a GOOD school which can help you get into a BETTER college - which again can help your career and so forth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2012): Well I think its all in your head..cuz honestly majority of the college going girls I know have a similar schedule..yess you do get tired and all you want to do is sleep but I think you should try fit your family and friends in that tight schedule..
At first work and studies would consume soo much of my time but now I make time.!!
Keep your weekends free,sleep in have a late lunch,watch a movie..
You can join weekend clubs,I used to take dance lessons once a day for an hour on sundays..good luck
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