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I have no rhythm when I am on top during sex. How can I get better at moving my body??

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Question - (3 December 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 15 March 2008)
A female South Africa age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend and I have been together about a month and a half. Therefore, on Christmas it will have been about 2 months. What do you recommend getting him for Christmas? I don't wanna be too cheap, but don't want to get too extravagant either. HELP!!!!!!

Also, I have no rhythm when I am on top during sex. How can I get better at moving my body?? Not sure what I am doing.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008):

I have no rhythm whatsoever - be it while dancing or during sex. Last time my boyfriend and I were at it, I was bouncing around on top of him and fell off and hit my head on the wall!!

But I think the best position we have tried so far, has been missionary, with one leg flat open like you would have while sitting cross legged and the other with the knee bent and your foot flat on the bed.

This way, he can lie on top of you, use one hand to prop himself up a bit and the other to hold onto the small of your back to keep you in rhythm with him. Also, this way, you can also push forward with the leg flat on the bed.

Good luck!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007):

If he drinks get him a bottle of whiskey of whatever he likes.

As for technique in bed I don't think you should worry about it too much. Most men over 18 prefer a little freshness and innocence of approach rather than professional standards of expertise. At the beginning of a relationship anyway. If you enjoy being on top you will get better at it with practice (with music perhaps?)and he might enjoy you learning something with him rather than just having you show off what you can do.

That said, a tilting, rolling action of your hips is better than trying to bounce up and down. You probably want your sensitive bits to rub a little on his pubic bone. An aroused woman feels much better to a man than one that's not. If you don't enjoy it there is lots else to experiment with.

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A female reader, leanne.od United Kingdom +, writes (3 December 2007):

leanne.od agony auntGet him a voucher or something alike.

As for having no rhythem, everyone has it, it's just discovering it, my recommendation would be to go slow, moving back and forth, in time with him. just make sure he doesn't lie still, that would be impossible. you need to find a way of interacting so you both know what works well with each other, try standing up and moving to a rhythem without intercourse so you know the way to do it when you are lying down, it'll come when naturally after a while.

best of luck.

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