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female
age
36-40,
*eebooger
writes:I am not happy with the amount of sex my boyfriend and i have. I want it more than him, the problem is i am very insecure and have a hard time making the first move due to my fear of rejection. we dont currently live together we stay with friends so sex is kinda limited anyways its either at our friends house or in the car. I feel like when we are actually alone an have the chance to have sex w out getting busted by the cops or ppl hearing that he doesnt seem to want to and anytime hes n has internet access he watches porn which makes my insecurities even worse. with out just yanking down his pants and giving him a bj i have no clue what to do to get him in the mood for sex. I've never been in a relationship where the guy wanted sex less than me so i'm clueless on how to get it. when we have sex its amazing. i am just crazy afraid of rejection so i need some sure fire ways to get his motor running. sure fire ways to become more desierable, to get over my insecurties.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (8 December 2013):
 It could be the lack of appropriate places to have sex, the stress about it or perhaps the porn, it's hard to say. How much does he watch?
http://www.yourbrainonporn.com
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2013): I don't think it's a problem with you boyfriend's sex drive, more a problem with the PLACE! who wants to get arrested or worse just for being intimate with th person they love?
By the sounds out of it this boils down simply to not having an appropriate place to you know...NOT a reflection on you or him, it's just it doesn't make him feel hot or comfortable where you'r doing it right now.
My answer however only explains why you're NOT having great sex, the solution (ie a better place) issomething we unfortunately can't help u with, just don't dump him yet...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2013): You need to do some straight talking to him on the subject. Tell him to stop watching porn and send him this link. It's a lecture on the impact of porn on male libido.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU
Take it from me, porn is a lust killer. But you only realise it when you give it up.
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