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writes: I am 30 by two weeks to come and my gal is 23 by nine weeks to come, I am a graduate and she is a mere primary school leaver. I am striving to get a job for 1.5 years now unsuccessful, I expected to marry by this year but due to this I think it cant work. I left the country for 12 months but I came back empty handed; I never give up, I still want to try another country, but she is doughting that I'm planning to dump her, I think this is because she don't know the reality of life or is me who don't know, otherwise, is because of her educational level. What should I do then, leave her, go with her, wait until I marry her and then go ahead with my plans, or what? did I make a perfect choice, what is the perfect one then, what should I do with this one?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2006): So why can't she get a job?? It's not always the men's job to bring money into the house.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (1 April 2006):
 Right, well few things, one are you in love with her and if so why are you messing about, just tell her you want to marry her and if she still wants this then go for it, it does not cost as much as you may think if you dont go for the full on white wedding thing.
2, not having a job should not stop you getting married.
3, why can she not get a job,
4, Why can you not get a job, are you aiming too high, yes you have a degree but that does not stop you working in a different job, surely getting any job is the main thing then looking around, it is far easier to get a job if you are employed and you will then have a work record.
5, If you want a job in another country then go for it, go onto the web and get your C.V on there, register with some agencies and why cannot she do the same, you can maybe if suitable do some aid work abroad, this will not bring in much money but if you have no commitments other than each other it is away of networking, doing something wonderful, seeing another country and culture, and you get your accommodaton and meals paid for, looks fantastic on any future C.V and you can do it together.
All just thoughts but first ask her where she thinks the realationship is going and what she wants from it.
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