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*feellikeana-hole
writes:My screen name describes me, i really do feel like an asshole.I married my wife when i was 19 before i joined the military. Before we got married things were great. We only knew each other for 4 months before we married. When i went to bootcamp, she cheated on me and claimed to only have done it a few times with one person, all though i believe the it was only one guy, I Think it was the whole time i was gone. But we got married after i finished bootcamp but had no idea she had cheated yet. I only suspected but felt guilty if I would of asked because she is 5 years older than me. But instead of not marrying her, i slepted with someone who told me, along with everyone else in the military, that she is cheating because she never wrote letters back after I sent her dozens of letters expressing my puppy love for her. I felt young and niave and still kinda do now. Everything happened so fast after I broke down and told her what i did, the she eventually told me. The sad part was that before that she told me she couldn't get pregnant for at least a year because of her birth control. So when i was ready to ask for an annulment, she was pregnant and i didn't want to leave her with a child by herself. She didn't want me having custody. I know after 3 years of still being with her that she loves me. I asked her for a divorce when i was deployed and we are still together. My last problem is is that i think i love my first, a girl i have known since i was 14. We have been talking since we first met and we still do. She definitely expresses how pissed off she was that i left where she lived and never came back. She has feelings for me but knows i'm married. My wife is a good person and i dont want to hurt her. WHAT THE HELL SHOULD I DO?!?!?
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reader, StarryEyes101  +, writes (28 February 2011):
 To be completely honest with you. Leave her. You sound like a really really nice guy and she sounds like a B*tch! Not writing you back when you were lonely and expressing how you felt about her. Your her husband!!! I don't think she loves you at all. Seriously, you will still have rights to see your child, but you don't need someone like her in your life. If she cheated on one person a few times, what's stopping her from going back there? Get out of there. She's trying to take advantage of your kindness. Hope this helps =)
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reader, ifeellikeana-hole +, writes (25 February 2011):
ifeellikeana-hole is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy wife isnt pregnant any more,
my daughter is going on 3 now
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