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writes:Hey everyone , I have a very serious problem and my daughter's safety is involved and my husband doesn't believe me.We moved all the way across country from the north (where all my family is) to the south (where my husband's family is he still has a lot in Mexico though) Since moving we've had nothing but bad luck, we paid $2,000 on our car to make sure it could handle the trip and now it's completely broken down. My husband hasn't been able to get a job yet even though he tries every day.I'm white and only speak English but I try to learn Spanish but I don't have much time well his parents only speak Spanish so we can't even talk and we are currently staying with them. His mom finds something wrong with almost anything I do. (She tells him to tell me to start making dinner for everyone so the next day I did and then she was mad because she made dinner for everyone and didn't want to eat what I made even though the day before I was told to cook) that's just one example My first daughter isn't biologically my husband's shes 7 but he's the only dad she knows she has blonde hair and blue eyes like me, my second daughter is 2 and has tan skin dark hair and eyes and looks just like my husband.Before moving here I asked God to send me butterflies as a sign were making the right choice and instantly every time I got one. There of course was problems back there to which is why we decided to move.Well my aunt who i haven't seen or spoke to since I was a kid called and told me that me and my oldest are in danger. She said God told her to warn me. That his mom or male relative will hurt/kidnap/kill me and my oldest but that she's in the most danger and she said that you can't just ask for a sign and trust it the devil can send it to trick you. ( I didn't tell anyone I asked for a sign) she says we're in danger because he's the only person who married out of his own race and that his family doesn't like it. She even said not to let my husband take her anywhere alone because he wouldn't be able to protect her. She said If I decide to say I have to live with what happens to my daughter.My husband doesn't believe in any of if but Idk how she knows so much she shouldn't of. We spent almost all our money to get her and it seems like it would be crazy to move back based on an aunt I never talk to but I'm worried about my daughter. My husband said his family would never hurt us but No one wants to think that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2021): I'm so happy to hear your husband found a job! Hold onto your faith! Pray without ceasing! God will provide at all times, if you trust Him. He will heal, protect, and provide!
Be sure to always give thanks to the Lord, whether things are going well or not. We have trials and challenges to strengthen us. It gives us endurance, and we grow more faith when we come-out on the other side of the problem.
May God be with you and your family. May you always rest in His hands, and may Jesus guide your steps; and His Holy Spirit always abide in you. Fear not!
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reader, Hopful95 +, writes (22 August 2021):
Hopful95 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both so much for your help, especially wiseowle. My husband got a job and things seem like there going better here. I watch our kids during the day so I don't have a job but I clean there house for them every day to pitch in.
Things back north were pretty awful too which is why we decided to move here. Unfortunately we kept having bad luck with money (cars kept breaking down costing $1,000s to fix and our youngest daughter has cost us $1,000s too in hospital bills because she has an issue with her kidney) so all 0f our savings had to keep being used for other stuff I'm hopeful now we'll get a fresh start and be able to save again. And I haven't heard another word from my aunt. Thanks again
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2021): Corrections:
"Your family is apparently worried about you; and it doesn't seem either you, or your [husband], have made wise decisions."
"Telling you "God" told her, and she'll get your attention through fear."
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Be leery of "modern-day" religious-prophesies and predictions; because people will exploit your faith and belief there is a God. Many don't believe there is a God; they'll tag you as a nut, and think He's a mythical imaginary-being. Even some people, who call themselves "Christians;" will play tricks on you, and mock true people of faith. Judge them by their actions; and the things they say and do. It has to be inline with true doctrine, the Word of God, according to scripture. You have to read your Bible, and seek good teaching from an real minister of the gospel. Then you won't be easily fooled or manipulated by posers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2021): Did you ever consider the possibility that your aunt made it all up? Maybe she is using God's name in vain, to give her warning credibility? Lots of people are fake prophets and evangelists, using God to backup things they say; for the sake of putting fear in you. Using your faith against you. Pray on it.
If there was any warning to be given by God about your child, He could have just as easily given the warning to you. When people give you warnings they claim come from God; and those so-called prophesies are given in precise detail, you have to pray on them to determine if they are in-fact from God. Don't test God by asking Him for signs, because the devil can also give counterfeit responses. You have to trust God, and He may not use butterflies to identify His actions. He wants you to live by faith and trust in Him.
Your aunt does not have a direct connection to God, that privilege was only given to Jesus Christ and the prophets. We Christians have Jesus and the Holy Spirit who are our direct links to God. God speaks through and to people; but be suspicious when they give specific details that sound like something "they" want you to do...and they'll throw God into it, because they are toying with your faith and testing your gullibility.
I will speculate your aunt doesn't like the fact you're living with a Mexican family; and they too may have their reservations about their son being with a white woman. I suspect racism is at play here. Just as you do.
If you have been warned your children are in danger; then you know to pray and ask God to protect your family. Don't hold suspicions of his family; because of some so-called "prophesy" from an aunt you hardly ever hear from. It seems suspiciously racist, not divine. Jesus will reveal the truth. Trust in Him.
I think your aunt means well, but she should never use God's name in a lie. You must never test the hand of God, that is not a good thing to do. He is sovereign, a Divine Deity, and acts when He's good and ready. He can't be manipulated, and you can't bend His will. You humbly pray to Him, when you need His help; and He promises to never forsake you in times of trouble or need. You have proof of that. Not through signs, but through His works. He will voluntarily show us miracles, signs, and wonders. He requires only our love, faith, and obedience. God does not perform on-demand, like a genie, magician, or sorcerer. He responds through love, and His deep affection for us. He keeps all His promises. He can't lie!
If you feel uneasy living with his family; you should have been more thoughtful before uprooting yourself and your kids, to move so far from home, with little or nothing. What's bothering you is coming more from regret, than what your aunt told you. You want to go home. You don't feel safe or secure where you are; and you feel unloved by his family. They don't know you; but they still opened their home to you. By the grace of God, you are not homeless. Why would God let them harm you, or your children? They are as frustrated that you don't speak Spanish, as you are that they don't speak English. You don't know their culture or customs; so things are awkward.
Your family is apparently worried about you; and it doesn't seem either you, or your boyfriend, have made wise decisions. If the children are in any danger; it would more likely be from homelessness or poverty. Not necessarily that someone wants to kill them. If you're living in a crime-stricken area, or a bad neighborhood anywhere; you take risks with your lives. I think your aunt is projecting her racist views. Tell you God told her, and she'll get your attention through fear.
You'd fare better-off, if you moved back north with your family; until your boyfriend got himself settled. Why would you move lock, stock, and barrel without jobs waiting for you? Now you're stuck living with his family, whom you aren't sure like you; and worse, he can't find a job! How about you, have you found one yet?
There are places begging for employees these days; so take the first thing you can get. Save as much as you can, and get your own place.
Don't be quick to believe religious-prophesies you can't determine are truly from God. Pray and trust God, and don't demand signs to prove His goodwill or actions. He keeps His promises. He doesn't have to prove Himself, or show us signs. If He wants to show you signs, you don't have to ask. He makes sure His will is done, and that you and your family are safe; just because He loves you, and has promised to protect you. Because you believe in Him.
It's important to read your Bible, and seek answers about faith from a trusted and anointed minister of the gospel, to explain the Holy scriptures. People will take advantage of your lack of knowledge of God's ways, or what is written in the Bible. They will play on your religious-beliefs, and use the name of God to manipulate and mock you. Not everyone who calls themselves a Christian is a Christian; and not everyone who cries...Lord, Lord...believes in God, or Jesus Christ. Pray for discernment. Question their motives, not God's. He is fair and just.
May God give you His protection, may Jesus watch over your little family, and provide for your needs. May the Holy Spirit give you knowledge, wisdom, and discernment. May the Lord guide your steps, and hold you safe in His hands.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (19 August 2021):
 While I don't believe in a lot of things. My first thought is I (as in me) can not TELL you to disregard or believe your aunt.
What I can tell you is that you sound miserable and unhappy where you are at. And I have to ask, HOW is your oldest daughter doing living in a place where she is very much an outsider?
Is there a decent school she can go to, is the area safe?
If I were you I'd have a talk with your husband about everything, not just the whole "vision" about your daughter. Can your family HELP you move back north? Can you get a job there? Can your husband?
I think you and your husband made a not very thought out plan to move to a place and live with people who are strangers to you.
I think your husband is within his rights to NOT believe the "vision/warning" but you are also within your rights to believe them.
I can't see why they would hurt her. I don't think this has to do with race at all. I think HIS family might not like you because you have added on to a FINANCIAL burden for them since YOU and your HUSBAND are living there but not working, not providing financially and you don't speak the language or know the culture.
You two might rethink where you are at and where you want to be. Vision/warning or not.
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