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writes:I'll try to make this quick.I've been totally in love for the last year, moved in with my bf, started talking about marrige, everything was perfect. His BFF died 2 months ago. Since then I havent felt the same. I don't think he's really changed that much (He's still perfect to me) but I feel really confused. Out of no where Ive started to think about my ex. (I was with the ex for 3 years - he was my first love - he cheated - we tried to get past it - I didnt trust him and ended the relationship). The last month I've felt this overwhelming feeling of anxiety. I'm even imagining my life without my BF. I'm questioning everything. What should I do? Will this pass?
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reader, luvme247  +, writes (18 February 2007):
 It may be hard to not think about your ex since you did have a long relationship with him & he meant alot to you, but the fact of the matter is that he did cheat on you & you were smart & left him for it. You don't want to get hurt again, so getting back together with him shouldn't be an option. Just think about how he hurt you & try your hardest to get him out of your head. It sounds like you have a great guy who loves you alot. Maybie the reason that you are thinking about your ex and thinking about how your life would be like without your current boyfriend is because you are a little scared that things may be moving too fast for you in your current relationship. Marriage is a big decision & you may not be ready for that kind of committment yet. Just a thought...
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (17 February 2007):
 I think its normal to have thoughts of an ex. After all they have played a part in your life, so naturaly you are going to have memories to reflect back on, and more so because he was your first love.
However your ex did the dirty on you, what makes you think he wouldent do it again.
I say stay with your current partner, and think of your relationship with you ex as just distant memories.
good luck x
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