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*tairjump
writes:so i totally have a girlfriend but there is this boy in my class that i really like.we barely ever talk and he just found out i liked him and he keeps winking at me and such but i get very nervous and my heart races.i don't know what to doi still really like my girl but i really like this boy tooany suggestions???? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): Lol I get what you mean xD especially the "when he waves or wink at me"
First you need to remember YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND and that you should love her
Secondly, you needa make it clear to him that you really do like him kus he might think its a joke since you do have a girlfriend. Make sure you get an answer from him...like how he feels or w/e just get a clear answer from him........
If he says he likes you back just follow your heart though I wouldn't recommend cheating or breaking up with your GF but hey its your life so meh......
LOL I noe its not really advice but hell I'm just reminding you of things you should have already thought about BUT BEING GAY/BI IS NOT NECESSARILY A BAD THING so yeshhhhh be yourself and be happy =]
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reader, bethevans  +, writes (22 March 2009):
 Okay i have a friend with the exact same situation, he's in sixth form atm, and to be honest.. it sounds like this guy is ether teasing you or he likes you.. i find it hard to tell, but really what you need to do is maybe not tell your girlfriend you like him jjust yet but atleest telll her that you are bisexual, most girls don't have a problem with it so i'm sure you will be fine but as for dealing with this guy.. i'd try to be friends with him a little more first and maybe just see if he's heterosexual or homosexual or any of the others. truly sorry i just can't think of the names right now lol .
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reader, stairjump +, writes (21 March 2009):
stairjump is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys so much for the advise
still not too sure what im going to do but thanks for your time
and to female reader, anonymous, i just want for you to know that in my school and country it is quite easy to be gay. few intollerant people.
and i dont see whats wrong with "encouraging myself to become bisexual"
like i really like this guy
and when he waves or winks at me its just so.....
ahhhh!!!!
haha
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (20 March 2009):
Gina is right.
You are so young that it's perfectly normal to be attracted to anything that moves at your age. Your hormones are making your body almost double in size so there has to be some effect on your brain.
You could come out of this in a few years time and be completely straight, you could be bi-sexual, or anything else.
Just enjoy the fact you have this crush, crushes are scary but fun. Stick with your girlfriend if you still have feelings for her, and just see what happens.
I know it's hard to sit and not worry, but it's just a rollercoaster ride, don't think the uphill bit you are on now will last forever as it won't.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): Hi. I believe you should try to forget about this boy. You are growing up and I know everyone wants to experiment different things and you have lots of hormones running like crazy inside of you but it's not worth it. Being attracted to both genders is something some teens (boys and girls) experiment now and then but it would be better if you don't get into that. First of all you are being emotionally unfaithful to your girl. You are flirting with somebody else when you have a stable relationship. Also, if you are already heterosexual why would you encourage yourself to become bisexual? Maybe not in your country but there's still a lot of intolerance with gays in many countries. My uncle is gay so I know what I'm talking about. Think about all the rejection of the society and not being able to have a mother for your kids, etc. The next time this guy looks at you and winks look elsewere and save yourself some trouble.
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