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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have a friend who I think may be up for a 3some with my boyfriend and I but I am not sure - I could be wrong. I am not worried about ruining our friendship as she is quite open minded, I am more so worried about being knocked back if I bring it up and she refuses. I have tried joking or playing around the idea but she has never taken the bait. But I am not sure if she is just not interested or doesn't want to make that first move as my bf and I are in a long term relationship so it may seem awkard to her to do so.My boyfriend and I are both models so by society stereotypes, we would be considered physically attractive I guess. My friend has had 3somes before as well as my boyfriend and I so I am not worried about it ruining our relationship etc.Any tips or advice on how I can bring this up coyly without being too obvious? I have been subtle and slightly suggestive in the past but don't want to be don't want to be too blatant for the fear of rejection.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): To most people who love and respect their partner; they would not even conceive of sharing.
To most couple's they believe in fidelity, faithfulness, monogamy.
If you hinted and dropped the suggestion and the BF choose to ignore it-why pressure him and pursue it?
Sounds like he already rejected it.
Most men, and people in general-prefer straight forward over hinting anyways.
Sometimes what we and want and desire, is not always based in wisdom.
You need to work on your issues of being insecure-there was no real threat or rejection in the response and your over reaction isn't healthy and only causes you more stess and pain.
Take Care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): I am the original poster and comment for the poster judgin - you know nothing about my bf and i - we have been together for nearly 9yrs so how dare you judge me or our feelings for each other?! People live their lives differently - we are honest and happy so who are you to judge! Do not give advise if you are going to pre-judge or condemn!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2007): Well if you know the answer could be "no" going into it, you won't be that disappointed. It's best to just be up front and ask her. I suspect you and your b/f don't have any real feelings for each other anyhow, so it's not going to hurt a relationship that seems pretty superficial to begin with. Besides you're young. It's not like you have a future with this guy. If it backfires, oh well.
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