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male
age
36-40,
*heantirice
writes:I'm going to try and make this as short as possible. I have known this girl for about three years now. I first met her through a party at her mom's house, we instantly became great friends. We "did it" quite a few times back in that time. Eventually we decided to stop, and began dating people. About a year and a half ago I told her I had feelings for her, but she said she didn't feel the same way. Okay, well a few days later we were watching a movie in bed (we were close like that) and she told me if her mom wasn't pushing it so hard it would have been differen't. (She doesn't talk to her mom anymore sadly). Well, she got a new boyfriend, and long story short we haven't talked for over a year. Lost all contact. About three weeks ago I saw her myspace and messaged her, she didn't have words to say how happy she was. (she was an exotic dancer, quit dancing, and is now going through stopping the alcoholic she was, she wasn't a dirty dancer though) She seems very happy to talk to me, and wants to go to dinner sometime, she's really busy getting her life straight, but it seems as though she's putting it off. Mabye I'm just being critical... The biggest kicker, she needs a place to stay... Nearly begging to move in saying she'll sleep on the floor and do all the cleaning (lol). During the same conversation she said "I want to go fishing again, let's go for a couple days! Sometime soon I hope" I don't really know what to think, she seems genuine and sincere... But also distant? I'm sorry for typing this all out, I'm not good at talking about my feelings or problems since I usually don't!
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (9 February 2009):
 well she is going through a tough time and needing all the help she can get. The question is are you willing to help her as a friend and not have any expectation of her falling in love with you? she already told you she doesn't like you in that way. So if you are going to be there for her, don't think your kindness will make her fall for you.
She won't. She probably is using you, but then again only you know how close you really are. I think this is a tough girl that's been through a lot...so i say watch your back.
be very cautious.
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reader, shna  +, writes (8 February 2009):
 There could be two things she's doing right now. She could really either be making a fresh start and wants you back in her life whether that's as friends or more than friends, I don't know??orShe could be using you and taking advantage of the necessities you bear. Meet up with her and try figure out for yourself before you decide anything. x x
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