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writes:In high school, there's this sophomore that, when I saw his face, completely started to crush on him. My heart aches during classes when I don't see him. I always see him around between my classes and during lunch. Thing is, I don't know who he is and he doesn't know me. I've changed my appearance; wearing earrings, tighter, cuter shirts and even leave my hair down, just so he could notice me. But it's been weeks and he still hasn't come up to me! I can't focus on my school work! What should I do?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): OH MY GOD, we have the same problem. like since the first time i saw this boy i like been crushing on him. well the day i was gonna go and talk to him i found out he was going out with this one freshmen girl. (hes a junior) but they broke up the next day for some reason i think he knows i like him but idk. but yeah. wat i wana tell you is be your self and if the guy doesnt have a girfriend go up to him and be like hey whats your name. and ask him if he has a myspace or something. then be friends with him. you know guys llike it when the girl make the first move so go rite ahead! good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGah...fine.
And, I stopped the changing myself thing. I've gone back to wearing normal jeans and shirt. WITH MY HAIR UP. It's hot with it down. ;
I just have to make the first move...? Kay...thanks guys!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2008): Okay, I'm going to have to agree with the others on this one. You SHOULD NOT have to change yourself for a guy. He seems great, from your description, but have you even talked to him?? Gotten to know him? If you haven't, you'd better (use tips that a-Ginger-Rabbit-Fairy gave you :D). Your "Prince" might end up being one of the many frogs of this world. Again, DO NOT CHANGE for a guy. If your friends are noticing, then they know something's up. Better 'fess up and tell them. They will most likely tell you you're being pretty silly, and you should go back to being YOU. In any case, just start talking to him, and let things happen!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2008): If he talks to you because you are dressed in a way that implies sexual promiscuity, he can only be after one thing. I wonder - does dressing this way give you confidence in who you are, or in who you want to be?
You must try talking to him - don't expect him to make the first move! If you see him sitting by himself, ask him if it would be okay for you to sit next to him (without bringing a large group of friends; this will only make him feel intimidated!). If you see him queuing to buy his lunch, go and join the queue behind him. Make small talk: don't expect a fairytale love story. Smile at him and tell him you had seen him around, but you didn't know his name. Maybe you could admire the jacket his is wearing, or the way he does his hair? Show him you are interested, and then back off a little to see if he responds. You will know very soon if your feelings are reciprocated!
It is very possible that this boy has fancied you for ages, but because you look so confident and are (I assume!) two years older than him, he believes you would never be interested! You will never know unless you approach him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI also have never had a boyfriend and my friends are asking why I was suddenly changing...
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