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writes:I am with relationship with this beautiful girl here for the last three years. Six months back, I was very upfront with her and she would find me available to her whenever she needed me . But after sometimes, I noticed that she started giving me attitude despite still in love with me. Then friends told me that I should start playing games with her to make myself valuable in front of her. And then transition took place in me, now whenever she calls me up over the phone, I intentionally pick up the phone late and fake it that I am having work and she should call me after one hour. She calls me after one hour and I start controlling things. When she invites me on date , I come late , faking that I had very important meeting in office. Every month, she gives me gifts to make me feel special. Now she runs after me, instead of me doing the chasing . She doesn't dare even say anything in front of me and I made her so dependent on myself that she can't imagine doing anything without me. I now she loves and I love her too but her past attitude changed me big time. I hate doing playing this little dirty games and being so fake 24/7 but I have realized one thing that girls like gamers not nice guys?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2011): Oh my goodness your acting like such a douchebag!! Stop now!!! The only reason she's staying is because she's waiting for your real self to come through!! Clean yourself up, buy her some flowers, apologize, and be grateful she stayed with you this long! Shes gonna dump you if you don't start acting right immeadiately!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2011): I think moderation is key here. The 'games' themselves don't sound so bad, and considering her past behaviour I can see exactly why you have acted this way - anyone would have. But I personally think that your biggest threat is that she could suss that you're playing games and get turned off immediatly. And in response to what you said about gamers, I'm a girl and I'd rather have a nice guy. Perhaps think of the situation as balancing weights and allow you and her equal amounts of control, and if her attitude resurfaces alter it in your favour?
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