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writes: I have known "George" for a long time, we've quietly been into each other for years although nothing ever happened before a few months ago. We hooked up at a party, it wasn't that serious, all my friends seemed happy enough for me, and George and i were on good terms. It didn't lead to anything, although i started to like him more and it seemed he felt the same way. But then in the middle of it all, right when it seemed that we were going somewhere, Delilah, my best best friend, tells me that she likes George and would not be ok with me going out with him. i was upset but could only respect her wishes. Recently, George asked me out and i explained the situation to him. Then a few nights ago I was at a party, we were both under the influence and one thing led to another, George and I ended up making out, and Delilah saw. She hasn't really spoken to me since then, she ignors me, won't look at me. I know that what i did was the wrong thing, but am i wrong again to feel that when she took him from me by telling me that i could not go out with him, that was just as bad as one hookup with him at a drunk party? I realize it was unresponsable of me, and although i should probably be begging her forgiveness right now, i don't really want to tell her that i wish it hadn't happened. Im falling in love with George, and if I were Delilah I would let us be. Am i a horrible person who committed a great betrayal, or is it okay? what should i do??
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 You had as much right as your best friend . George does not belong to your best friend. When a man come in between two women, their friendship would be shot to pieces. That is to be expected. Your best friend has muscled into your territory. She had no respect for you and you still treated her like a best pal.
Nope, I don't think you are a horrible person or you need to apologize to your best friend who will not be your best anymore after this.You are too patronizing to your best friend. You don't owe her anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): right, you met george first, your freind has no right whatsoever to claim him for herself after you had already hooked up with him. she is being extremely childish and you should not let her make you and george feel uncomfortable about seeing each other. ask yourself this, if you stood back and let her go off with george, then would she worry about your feelings as much? i seriously doubt it. you are young, plenty of time left to make proper freinds who will wholly support you in every relationship that makes you happy!good luck elli x
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