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writes: I'm in a real dilemma. I have recently been promoted and am now earning a decent salary. My partner has just been laid off, but is starting his own business. Trouble is, I'm supporting us both financially which leaves me with no energy and no money to save. The fact that I'm putting extra money in the account is making him feel safe and he is in no rush to start earning. It's dragging me down. I have said I'll continue with this for 12 months, but I'm already fed up after just 3 months! How do i improve our situation without behaving like a spoilt princess?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): You have to look at this situation as a partnership. Do try and pull together. I bet deep down he doesn't like this situation one bit and some people can get very depressed when they are placed in a situation like this. Do stand by your man and stop moaning, it won't be forever.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (5 December 2006):
Well, it's all about you. Are you a couple or not? Do you have a mutual plan for the future? Do you see yourselves sitting together in rocking chairs when you're 80? Why is he in no hurry to earn money? Is he being realistic? Are you being short sighted? Is this the person you want to live with for the rest of your life.
My wife and I always pooled out money. IT worked for us in the days when we didn't have much. WE paid the bills, took care of our responsabilities and enjoyed wqat was left. We were and are a team. Most successful couples have some type of variation of this idea. You can have your own stash but in general, for me, we set common goals, not a competition.
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