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writes:Just wondering if anyone else feels the same way as I do??... I feel so embarassed and insecure when my boyfriend and I watch tv. or a movie and there is a sex scene or even nudity! I literally break out in a sweat and can't wait for that part to be over. Is there something wrong with me? Even if there is a woman taking off their top.... I almost feel as if my boyfriend is compairing me to her and feel sad. Maybe it has something to do with my own insecurities about my body? I don't know... Ladies? Can anyone relate to me? Guys, any suggestions or opinions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2012): I know what you mean. I especially feel uncomfortable with female nudity, more than sex scenes. I just know when we watch something that involves that I'm going to turn around and see my boyfriend ogling them, whether they're pretty or not (which they usually are) and I hate that! Sometimes he'll pretend like he hasn't noticed which is irritating as well because I feel like he's aware of the scene even more!
Not sure what I can say to help you but I know if I get mad about it it never ends happily... Usually the best thing to do is ignore it, try to think of something else until that particular scene is over... It's different if you're partner talks about the woman after or during because then I feel like he's out of line but I guess if the moments brief we just have to put up with it even if it does make us want to scream sometimes!
I know that I'm a really insecure person so the issue probably does relate to that but I don't think that it is an abnormal feeling. I feel really down usually because I think, well, my body isn't that nice etc and I hate that my boyfriend might prefare someone with a nicer body but usually by the time the programme/film is over, I've forgotten about it.
I'd say, don't worry about it and if you feel like a little revenge, try watching something with lots of bare chested sexy men in. See if you're partner looks uncomforable. He might not do but it'll probably make you feel better just the same!
Hope some of that helps x
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