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writes: hi im nearly 18! im still a virgin and i have been sexually active once before!! until last night i gave some random head and he fingered me! and today i feel like such a slag and kinda depressed and dirty! is this normal! or will i always feel like this with people i do things with!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2006): wow this is so normal and nothing for you to worry about iv felt like that before because it was a drunken mistake but it was with someone i knew. but its stil the same feeling! . its something you wont feel everytime you do some thing like that with another male. maybe if you found someone you really like you will then experiance what i would call 'pleasure' and feeling very 'loved'.
you would not be classed as a slag! your'v done sexual acts twice now and the second one was just your first mistake! so i wouldnt worry as much as you are. this feeling will go after a few dayz or two maybe.
i hope this help!
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reader, candycanecindy +, writes (26 December 2006):
This is normal since you have no idea who the guy was and you did not love him. But you are not a slag because this happens all the time and doing it once does not make you a slag.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2006): You're young, and at your age experimenting is perfectly normal and natural. The after effect of feeling "dirty" can likely be chalked moreso up to the fact that you didn't know him than what activity you engaged in. Trust me, you won't feel bad every time you have sex.
For now, cheer up. People hook up, it's a fact of life, and you're definitely not the first or last normal, healthy teenager to let your hormones and curiosity get the best of you.
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reader, forgetmenot +, writes (26 December 2006):
 It's normal enough to experiment sexually with guys at some point. Most people do it at one point or another. We get curious. There's peer pressure. It can feel kinda nice.
But you're probably not going to feel great screwing around with strangers. Especially if you're not actively deciding to do it for your own pleasure. If it's just something you sort of go along with then really you need to make your own decisions and be firm about them. Don't go near guys til you've made your decisions about sex (and by sex I mean foreplay and oral and whatever else too, it's just easier to say sex). You need to have a good think about it and decide what feels right for you. Do you want to experiment with sex? Does it matter to you who it's with? If it's not big deal to you then just do it safely and try and be discreet cos there's nothing like gossip and rumors flying around to make you feel bad about yourself. Do you need there to be mutual respect? If you do how can you be sure of this? How well do you need to know a person before you're confident that there is respect between you? Does there need to be more than sex with this person? Would you actually be comfortable with anything less than love? The answers to these can differ a lot for different people. You just have to decide what's right for you. Though I would reccommend developing mutual respect with a person before getting intimate with them to advoid feeling used and down about things. Take care and be good to yourself. Don't beat yourself up so much. It's hard for other people to respect your body if you don't respect it yourself. Try shill out. Maybe have a bath and meditate or whatever works for you and realise this was a learning experience. If you didn't use protection to get yourself to a clinic and get sdome tests done. There's a lot of STI's you can catch from oral. You're probably fine but it's best to be certain and take precautions in future. If you wanna chat or anything feel free to PM me
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2006): The old time word is slut. You feel like one because you acted like one. Just move on and find a guy that likes you for you, and not for the quickies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2006): Chalk this one down to experience but I wouldnt do it again. Apart from not knowing a strangers sexual history its not very good in your social circle to be known as someone who does that. I know a woman like that and trust me she gets no respect what so ever, not even from her best mates. Just be bit more careful in future and you'll be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2006): well i think itll pass but giving head to a random guys just isnt the best idea so you probly will feel like a slag after you do things like that but its normal and good and you shouldnt try to beat that feeling.
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