A
female
 ,
anonymous
writes:I am wondering if you think that my bf has gotten too attached to me too quickly? We have been going out for 3 weeks and we talk every day and see each other about every 2nd day. Hes written me a poem, and says he doesnt think he could live without me. He calls me his girl and says 'you are mine!'. Hes already talking about us making plans to go on holidays away with each other. Hes always talking far into the future, whether it be next week, a few months or even next year! We have even talked about children...He consults me about alot of decisions he makes in his life, whether it be geting his hair cut, getting a tattoo or even about his job. Although its nice to feel like hes serious about me, I cant help but feel this is too good to be true as we have only been going out for 3 weeks. Dont get me wrong I like him and seeing him alot etc...however I just feel like its hard to beleive that he could have such strong GENUINE feelings for me in such a short amount of time. Ive heard that people who attach really quickly, detatch themselves just as quickly becuase their reasons for becoming so attached in the first place werent genuine, healthy reasons, they were more shallow and superficial reasons. I wonder if this is what is happening with him and his feelings for me?
View related questions:
on holiday, tattoo Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): Well, I think he is just over excited, sometimes men in this age group are pretty romantic, but I do think he is the type who can just as easily fall out of love or lust, he is impulsive, so just take things slowwww.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): Not a good sign. I had a boyfriend who done the exacpt same thing. I really liked him at the start and then just found he was too attatched. I ended up feeling trapped in the relationship - I wanted to break up with him so bad but I could see how much he was into me and knew it would KILL him if I did. I ended up staying with him for 2 extra months just because I didnt want to hurt him.
Just beware of where things can lead. Look out for the warning signs.
But then again you never know he might just be compltly genuine.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your reply rhythmandblues2. I am 20 years old and he is 25.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): How old are the two of you? Yes, I think this is a red flag...saying he can't live without you is dependence not love, and of course this is all infatuation after only three weeks. I would just try to slow things down and see how he takes it.
...............................
|
