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writes:HiJust a quick question. There's this really fit girl, I have a laugh with all the time.She's popular so she finds me uncool but I over complement her about her looks and personality, she over blushes when I do so and ends up laughing. Her friends even say she should get with me, do you think theres a chance? We just flirt and flirt! lolThanks
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reader, Melanne +, writes (28 March 2007):
 You obviously really like this girl and it shows. This girl sounds like she knows that you like her as well because she blushes. There is obviously the fear of rejection as if you ask her out and she says no then you will feel rejected. However, if you don't ask her out then you will never know. What would be worse the chance she could say yes? Or the chance that she will say no? Or perhaps never knowing.
You obviously have the need to feel wanted and part of a group as you are aware that this girl is popular and there is a sense that you are not. However, that doesn't mean that this girl doesn`'t like you she may be more concerned about her friends and belonging in the group and if she went out with you she may think that she would lose that. If she does think more of her popularity than going out with someone less popular than her then really she isn't worth the hastle. She is behaving in a very shallow way by putting her mates before you.
I really think you need to let go of your fear and ask her out, but it has to be your decision. If you never ask her out and years later find out that she liked you then how would that make you feel? Surely it is better to let go of the fear than to regret you never did something? I know it will be difficult, but I would say to you go for it or you will never know if you had a chance with her.
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