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*hecurerocks22
writes:So i'm a freshman in college, and about two months ago i broke up with a guy i dated for about two and a half years. It was a very abusive relationship and he was always hurting me emotionally. I wasn't looking for a relationship after i had broken up with him, but this one guy started showing signs that he was interested in me. I started noticing him more. He was the vice president of the outing club, so when we went on hikes and other outdoor events, he always talked to me and was always very kind to me. We started talking more and more, and one day he wanted to take me kayaking, and we did. It was very romantic and cute, i had such an amazing time. We also went star gazing which really is when our relationship sparked and we shared our first kiss. I enjoyed spending everyday with him. He enjoyed it too. We told each other how amazing we were and how the relationship was going perfectly. I told him i was falling in love with him, and so did he. We shared many event filled days full of love and fun, and nights of cuddles and warmth. Every morning he would say "good morning beautiful" and it was the best three weeks of my life. I thought everything was perfect, until one night, unexpectedly he broke my heart, and told me a relationship just isn't in him. He claimed i was his first girl friend in four years and him being 21 that's a long time. I didn't understand at all what was going through his mind, i thought he was lying to me the whole time and was using me. After hours of talking he claimed that he's just not meant for relationships, or anything to do with women at all. He's not homosexual, he's just not into having relations with women. He claims he's an independent/solitary man. He dated me because he liked me so much he thought he would give it a shot. I know that he is telling me the truth, but do guys like this really exist? I asked him how he could like someone and not do anything about it and how he handles being lonely. He claimed he does get lonely but he's just so busy it doesn't bother him. Here i am heart broken, and miserable. I thought i finally found someone and had something so special, to found out i had fallen in love with an independent man. I have no idea what to do or what to think, please help me, or give me some advice. I'm more confused and hurt than ever!
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reader, thecurerocks22 +, writes (15 November 2007):
thecurerocks22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni totally would, except that he's just such an amazing person, i put the fact that he hurt me so much behind me. it's a bad state of mind. it's just so hard because i see him everyday. and he told me he likes me still. so it makes me feel like i shouldn't bring my hopes down. it's terrible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): just act like you don't care and move on. see how he acts. if he doesn't care, then honestly, it's better to let go.
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reader, thecurerocks22 +, writes (15 November 2007):
thecurerocks22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe weird thing is, he told me he's not a one nighter guy, he doesn't have friends with benefits, or girlfriends, he said he doesn't do anything unless it's a rare occasion like when i came along. it's a really weird thing to me.
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