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writes: Please help, i am highly annoyed. I am 22, a male, and far too sensitive for my own good, I get hurt and offended quickly and take way too many things to heart, I take things personally and any little thing gets me down. when im feeling down and I need someone to comfort me, and the person that I need to make me feel better doesnt even make me feel better, and I MUST say that I dont complain at all, but when i need some help or advice, the person that i seek help from just says, I dunno what to say, even a mere things will be ok will make me better, or dont worry we have each other, etc etc, that makes me sad when i do not hear that and then i feel all alone, and feel that no one cares.How can i stop taking things so personally and how can i stop being so sensitive to everyones elses feelings? sometimes I wish that i was a real mean person, and didnt care,what can i do to become a more emotionally stronger person? please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, kimberlina +, writes (29 December 2005):
 Gee, your question really hit home for me. i'm a sensitive person too and i don't think i would like it any other way. just think of the benifits it gives you. Being sensitive means that you can tap into other peoples feelings and you can give and recieve love, which some people are hoplelss at doing. You can experience life without being too hard on others by being kind and thouhtful.All you have to do is know how to use it and when to use it.Most of the time people are running around at high speed and not appreciating life so they become hard.I agree with KellyO find a hobby perhaps do a short course in Psychology as you'll learn how people tick and why we have such an emotional outlook on life. And why we feel so sensitive.My guess is that there might be something missing in your life and you just don't know what it is. believe me i'm 42 and i've experienced many things in life and being too sensitive doesn't really give you what you need unless you know how to appropriately tap into yourself.So how can you do this? First get yourself a notebook and start writing down some thoughts everyday. it might be about how your feeling, what made you smile, what made you sad. this is important because the thoughts and feelings can just swim around in our heads which is confusing then we start to feel angry with ourselves because we start feeling emotional.But by all means please try not to suppress it because this is so precious. Try going to your local library and get some books on how to release your felings in a healthy way.I hope this has helped and things will get better as you get older. When we are a certain age it's about soul searching and you could be doing this all your life so try to see it as a learning process and there is no wrong or right way it's your way!All the best.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (28 December 2005):
 Dear, i think we all need somone to lean on sometimes when we are down. its always best to let out your problems by talking to a friend that cares or family. i wont encourage u to bottle everything up.
I have alot of people i talk to when i am down and i run to those who i feel might be able to help me with the proper advise for a particular subject.
So what u need to consider when approaching someone to talk to is, one which can offer the proper advise, have your best interest at heart and who will keep what u say in confidence.
Also, u can try relaxing abit. Go out and enjoy yourself occasionally with friends. This does help u take your mind off things. u can also start a hobby u think u are interested in.
Take care now. all the best.
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