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writes:i dont know what to do, i feel really depressed. the bloke i loved dumped me by ignoring my calls. my last 3 relationships ended by my partners hand. i'm finding my new job really hard my boss doesnt seem to like me. other people have picked up on it a little. my nans ill and now my best friends ignoring me b'cus she blames me for her mascarra going missing. i've been bullied in the past and i'm just sick of people being horrible to me, i'm starting to think theres something wrong with me, i'm fundamentally dislikeable or something. i'm trying to be positive and not take it personal but its hard. i feel so alone, i have family who want to help but your family has to love you. i just feel like packing my bags and going somewhere new or just not bothering with people unless i have too. i'm just so fed up. i dont know what to do
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (23 September 2007):
 your friend is over reating about her mascarra and every one thinks there boss hates them, but he/she isn't there to be liked.
its unfortunate that your previous relationships have ended in ways out of your control, but maybe you need some space and alone time to figure out what could be causing the break ups. if you feel low, some guys can't handle it, if you take things in a relationship for granted, they get upset, men are confusing!
i think your being harsh on your family because, they do have to love you but there love is unconditional and they are there to help and listen and usually sort things out!
don't look at it like they are pitying you, they want to help you because they do love you and care about you and don't want to see you become depressed.
talk to them, talk to your friend, explain you don't want to loose your friendship over some stupid make up, you value your friendship more than that. speak to your boss say you feel like he/she has a problem with you and you're not sure if there is any rtuth in it or if you are reading to much into things.
god luck, and remember not all guys set out to hurt you, relationships end as quickly as they start.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (23 September 2007):
 First let me tell you , don't run. It's OK to be fed up. I have read many questions and have talked with quite a few people. I have talked with people all over the world, and have given advice to many people too. Take where you're from. We have some different laws that you, different cultures as far as how somethings are done, some of our beliefs would be different also. One thing I noticed being on this site is having a relationship with ourselves and other people is not culturally separated. No matter where we come from, people all over face the same issues. I brought that up because if you run, you'd be going somewhere your difficulty will follow.
Now instead of being tired of how you're treated. You need to take action. One sentence I read in a book comes to ming "you teach people how to treat you", you also choose to react in certain ways as well. It's not what someone does to us, it's how we view what they did. Just thinking positive is not going to change your situation, you have to have solid action with it. Put your food down and tell yourself you will no longer allow others to treat you less than you choose to be treated. You need to set boundaries in your life. Put your foot down and say "you know what, enoughs enough and it's going to stop here and now" Tell people who treat you bad. Let them know their behavior caused you pain, and you will no longer tolerate that behavior toward you. You're an important person, and you have the right to be treated in the manner you choose too.
I hope this helps you. Take care.
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