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30-35,
*halala1
writes:Hello,i am 21 years old and i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years now. We have a great relationship and are planning to get married soon but recently something has been really bugging me. My boyfriend is 23 years old and has 2 younger sisters aged 9 and 10. He has recently become really close to them which i am very happy about, however i have noticed that nowadays every time i go 2 see him his sisters are always there. I love his sisters and don't mind spending time with them but its getting out of hand. i only see him twice a week and in those 2 days we hardly ever get anytime alone. every time we decide to do an activity together, he calls his sisters to join us so i never get any undivided attention. What makes this really frustrating is that were not aloud to kiss or hold hands or cuddle in front of them because he doesn't want to be a bad influence on them, which means we never get a chance to connect.I feel like the third wheel, he spends all week only with his sisters as he doesn't really go out and the only chance he gets to spend with me, he seems more interested in them.I have already spoken to him about this and nothing has really changed, i guess he cant help the fact that he always wants to be around them. i don't think i can say anything to him again because he is so protective over them i know it will damage our relationship.Help me please, i don't know what to do! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): Showing physical affection to your fiance or spouse is not going to be a bad influence on his sisters--in fact it could be a good influence. Of course you have to be moderate around them, but holding hands, etc. is not going to hurt them. Is he going to continue this attitude after you're married?
You need to be able to talk to him about anything. If you can't talk about this, maybe you should put your wedding plans on hold until your communication issues are worked out.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (4 April 2011):
 You think talking to him will damage your relationship? And what effect would not talking to him about it have? It is good that he spends time with his little sisters but surely he must consider that he also has another relationship to commit to, else this relationship would go nowhere. Then again, how long has this been going on? Perhaps it is just a phase, he needs time to connect with them. Just talk to him about it. All you really need is one day a week AT LEAST when its just the two of you and you are free to connect emotionally and physically.
I hope that helps.
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