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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been molested, help! I feel like I deserved it for some reason and i blame myself for what he did to me. :( I'm extremely ashamed and embarrassed by this situation, and I'm constantly scared... any help? Reply to this Question
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reader, xDiamondx  +, writes (19 May 2010):
 No one deserves to be molested ; tell someone :)
Your mum?
your grandmaaa? =)
someone..you'll feel better
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female
reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (19 May 2010):
 See, the thing is that what you are feeling is normal following such an incident (or incidents). The victims often don't speak out because they blame themselves. It is important that you speak with someone who has training in this area or you could experience problems later in your life. This is something that you may simply not be able to handle by yourself and strangers on the internet don't have the training to help you cope.
I think that if you try to seek help, you may wind up feeling loads better than you do right now. Telling someone, while it is scary, may be the smartest (and bravest) thing you could do.
One source of help would be contacting your local rape crisis center. Yes, they help victims of violent rape, but they can also help you deal with what you've experienced and I believe this would be confidential, depending on the laws in your country.
So please call the rape crisis center and tell them what you've told us. They will know better what to do than us.
Good luck, I hope you find the help you seek.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2010): Nobody deserves to be molested. Try to speak to an adult you trust about this, to relieve some of your emotions and also because he could do it to someone else.
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female
reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 May 2010):
Hi, was this your post? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/molested-by-mums-boyfriend-continued.html
You have to tell someone so you can get the help you need. Your mother, your doctor, an aunt, your grandmother, a teacher, the head of your school, the school nurse or counselor. Tell someone so you can get the help you need. It isn't your fault, your feelings are normal. Please be brave and try to get help there.
Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis has been going on for about 3-4 years now.. and i do not want my mom to find out about this at all. it is my fault in that i didnt stop him earlier from doing these things to me. i should have been stronger and done something about it..
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2010): Hello,
I'm so sorry to read of of your very upsetting and stressful time. You are NOT to blame, no one deserves to be treated in the manner you write about. The molester must be held responsible and accountable for his/her actions, so please consider reporting this incident, even though I know it will be painful for you. They must stand answerable for this, if it goes unreported, there is a high risk they will act like this again. Don't feel embarrassed, you have no need to, but I do think you need to find someone, preferably a professional who will take you through this very upsetting experience, and help you come out the other side.
I wish you well for the future.
Jilly x
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reader, Aussiemum  +, writes (19 May 2010):
Hello
No one EVER deserves to be treated that way. If anyone is to be ashamed its to be the molester, not you. I can understand its embarrasing, but you have to talk to someone about this. You need to report this person so they can be held accountable for their actions, it doesnt matter who they are to you...report them. And seek professional help to guide you throught this challenging time.
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