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writes: Whenever i do anything i feel uncomfortable in my own skin and wish like hell to be elsewhere.i don't enjoy kissing.i don't like touching or cuddling.i absolutely hate PDA either when i see other couples or me and my b/f.I don't enjoy any sexual acitivity.I hate this feeling, i feel like i'm not normal so can someone tell me what is wrong with me i feel like a freak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2007): This is more of a response to the people giving responses. I'm so tired of reading things like "you haven't found the right person," "once you find the right person." It isn't a matter of finding the right person all the time. Some people actually do have issues that go beyond that. I don't have the same issue to such a degree, but after being with somebody for a while, when they want to kiss me softly repeatately, I want to scream. It seriously makes my fist tighten and I spend the next hour biting my lips to try to get rid of the feeling. It's not about finding the right person for me. It definitely runs deeper than that.
I know this isn't much 'help,' but at least I'm not giving you some cookie cutter answer!
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reader, stina  +, writes (5 December 2006):
 Hi Anon,
You sound like one of my friends. She didn't like being close with anyone (physically) or even being hugged by her own family. Ever since she was a baby, her mom said that my friend hated to have contact with anyone and would scream if anyone picked her up. The only time that it changed for her is when she met the guy who would eventually be her husband. That is basically the only person she doesn't mind having touch her, hug her, etc. She still doesn't like to be hugged or even tapped on the shoulder by anyone else. Some people are just born that way. Maybe it's just that you haven't met the right person yet.
If you're really concerned, though, you might want to seek the help of a counselor. It wouldn't do any harm, and it might help you to get to the core of why you feel this way. I'm wondering if there was some sort of trauma that happened when you were younger that could be causing these sorts of feelings? If not, then I wouldn't worry too much - don't compare yourself to anyone else because if you are content not being a touchy person in itself, then that's fine! (There are many people who do not like cuddling, and a lot more people who don't like PDA, you know? So that's not particularly "freakish." :) )
Don't feel like a freak, though! Everyone is different and I bet one day that you will find someone just as my friend did. If you still feel like something is "wrong," then I suggest seeking the advice of a counselor to get to the bottom of everything.
Take care.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (5 December 2006):
 Hi,
Would have loved to know your age?At a certain age i didnt like thinking about touching, kissing cuddling.I found it repulsive almost throughout my high school.But with time when u find the ideal person it comes naturally so dont beat yourself up.
Goodluck.
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