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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I feel like I'm incompatible with every single girl on the planet. Even though I'm friendly, intelligent, well-built and social (I get along with nearly everyone and always make people laugh) I still feel that I'm just not supposed to have a partner. I'm 18, have never had a girlfriend or even kissed a girl and I highly doubt that's going to change anytime soon, if at all. It's because of the same reason: I avoid any possible chance at a relationship with a girl because I feel that I simply have no business being with the opposite sex in a romantic way. Nothing that's happened to me in the past can remotely relate to this situation so I don't think it's a traumatic event, and I'm definitely not depressed (I'm not trying to sugarcoat my life with happy thoughts either).That being said, nothing seems to be able to change my frame of mind. Any suggestions from anyone who's ever been in a similar situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): If you still feel this way after another 5 years write to us again. I highly doubt you will find yourself in the same position as you are in today after even a year. After 5 years dont be surprised if you got married or have kids even. At 18, anything can happen.
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reader, Lorena10  +, writes (4 April 2010):
You probable think you dont deserve a giirlfriend. try to work this out. Do you feel confidence talking to girls? Do you feel you rise to their expectations.Do you pschologically push them away maybe because you dont feel you can keep them interested. Maybe your jokey characteristics is a way of pushing them away so they think you are not serious, Deep down you are pushing them away because of lack of onfidence or feeling low in esteem. What about visualistion and imaging yourself calm relaxed, peaceful, enjoying a girl's company,walking calmly not necessarily talking but enjoying each others company etc etc.? Also what about just developing friendships with girls and do more listening rather than being the joker...???
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 April 2010):
You're only 18. You'd be surprised how many people still haven't had partners by that age. There is no rush to the finish line. Take your time, get to know girls and find the right one. Don't just find one of many who won't make you happy. There is one out there, you just have to take your time and find her.
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