A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:my bf has a gf about seven years ago (relationship lasted two years) it was his first serious relationship and it ended badly. I have been with him for three years and things are great. However, I am convinced without a doubt in my mind that she is the 'one' for him. He says he is over her, and that he does not think about her at all but to be honest, I dont think that this is through choice. HE left her as he found her chatting to others guys on a dating site, but I think that if that had not happened he would never have left and he only did so as he felt that the trust was broken. SHe seems exactly his type, pretty, petite, cute etc. She was the first person that he loved and Im convinced that she was the last ( he says he loves me but I dont believe him).They dont keep in contact, he has no pictures of her, or any gifts or things. HE never speaks about her unless I ask.There is nothing here in his house that is hers but I still feel that he let go of his soul mate when they broke up. He is a wonderful bf to me and we have talked of getting married and settling down, but I know deep down, that he is only with me because he cannot be with her. What should I do? Should I leave based on my guy feeling or should I stay based on the fact that there is no evidence to suggest what I believe?
View related questions:
broke up, petite, soulmate Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, doom  +, writes (24 October 2010):
 ooohhh yes i forgot to write: STOP ASKING AND COMPARING ABOUT HIS EX!!! believe me ex=past, we don't talk about it.Every time you tell him about it, he tries to remeber about her, but in fact he forgot and wants to forget her forever!!!
A
male
reader, doom +, writes (24 October 2010):
AS the previos answer i think you're over ereacting.In your mind you convinced yourself that you'r enot good enough for him as his ex.Well of course he left her b/c his ex cheated, believe me love dissapears fastly when someone betrays you.Try not focusing on her,try convining yourself that "you're the best for him" and that "he will be happy only with me" )) a little bit of courage and pozitive.I think you have a great bf, because he like you not only for your body but the person who you really are;) so be happy and don't worry
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): I think you're being your own worst enemy here.
Don't sabotage a wonderful relationship with your own paranoia. If he didn't want to be with you, he wouldn't simple as. And if he didn't think that you were "the one" there'd be no marriage talk for him believe me.
...............................
|
